Tuesday, 31 January 2017

PRICKLY THORNS


I think if we are entirely honest, we all battle with forgiving someone who has hurt us deeply. It is almost as if we want to hold on to the unforgiveness because they don't really deserve being forgiven..

I have battled this, even recently when a family member hurt my son needlessly by betraying a confidence to him that was totally unnecessary and just hurt him for no reason-and stabbed me in the heart with her words. This particular family member is one I am sure most of you have in your family tree- the thorn in the side who loves to prick you at every opportunity, and who, like a bad smell, keeps reappearing in your life and sucks you dry but who gives nothing in return. Remember, I am talking honestly here... most of us know someone like this..

So how do you put the matter right when you can't bear another prick of the thorns. When their very presence around you is toxic.. ? I have come to understand that forgiveness is necessary at all times. Jesus told us to forgive our brother seven times seventy and to turn the other cheek if it is struck... but after that, what happens to prevent a complete breakdown of the recipient of the thorny pricks? I mean, when seven times seventy becomes seventy times seven thousand and one is bloody and bruised from thorn pricks and turning the other cheek until the jaw is dislocated?

Well, we are still required to forgive. In fact, it is vital for us- for our health, both physical and spiritual.. So, we forgive. Then what? For me, I believe there comes a time when one has to hand the person over to God, and then to pray for them and to love them from afar. We do not have to love them at a close distance, or even to talk to them if it is too painful- and by the time the situation gets to this point, talking is usually painful... 

By forgiving them you release yourself from anger that permeates into every aspect of your life and ruins your peace and closeness to God. By giving them to God, you are pleasing Him as you pray for them and do not harbour resentment or ill feeling. I do not see distancing oneself is unbiblical, provided that one has forgiven that person and prays for them...


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Mathew 18:22

Sunday, 29 January 2017

HOME: THE FORGOTTEN REALM

In our day and age, home life is – sadly - devalued, unappreciated, and sneered at; good home life, with its orderliness, cheerfulness, peace, contentment and simplicity is so very rare, that some people of my generation grew up without knowing it at all. In too many households, there are no orderly routines, no lovingly arranged decorations, no home-cooked meals, no family dinners, no welcoming neighbors into your home and showing hospitality – none of the warmth and lovingness that transform a house, a dwelling, into a home.

The incredibly important work of a woman as a keeper of her home, the woman who is present at her home, being the center and spirit of it, caring and nurturing, loving and creating, tending to the needs of her loved ones – is also tossed aside, aprons and home-baked cookies sound almost offensive in the light of the feminist agenda.

By the more tolerant, a mother of young children who stays home to care for her little ones is still seen as somehow 'justified', making a noble – even if unfortunate and unrewarding – sacrifice; but mothers of grown-up children, or married and childless women, or grown-up daughters – how dare they remain at home? How dare they to focus on the home? How can they say they are doing something important and worthwhile?

Yet I think no woman – mother, wife, daughter, sister or grandmother – should feel guilty for loving her home, for cherishing her home and making it the focus of her life, love, work, energy and creativity. No woman should feel she is squandering her talents because the role she chose isn't glorious or well-paid. No woman should feel unimportant, useless, or unproductive, because she chooses to make home her first priority.

Think of a childhood spent without ever smelling a delicious cake or pie, fresh for the oven; without ever tugging at the strings of Mother's apron (because she doesn't own one); without long, peaceful afternoons spent side by side, learning, laughing and playing alongside each other. Think of a husband coming home, each and every evening, to an empty, silent, cold, unorganized and basically uninhabited home, full of appliances and objects, but devoid of love and dedication. Imagine a tired old man who is walking down the street, thirsty for a glass of water to drink or for a few warm words of friendly conversation – but there is no one behind those closed unwelcoming doors during the entire day, and way too much pressure and rush during the evenings and weekends; think of all the loneliness, detachment, stress, unhappiness and emptiness that have been our share ever since we dismissed the home as the woman's realm, as a center of love, joy, peace, warmth and hospitality, and not just a place to eat and sleep.

What cause can be more noble and rewarding than setting our goal to re-conquering that realm? We can do that, bit by bit, with our daily work at home; each sweet-smelling, sparkling clean clothesline, each home-baked pie and hand-knitted scarf, each neighborly smile and welcoming gesture lead us on our way to become, again, queens of our households. by Anna T of Domestic Felicity


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“marry, bear children, guide the house . . .” 1 Tim. 5:14

Saturday, 28 January 2017

LETTER TO A GRANDMOTHER

 

I always felt that my grandchildren were my children- not in the sense that I am their 'mother', but in that they were a blessing from God passed on to me from my children. It is my job, (I feel), to be there to advise my children if they ask me about child rearing and to be there for the grandchildren if it is required by their parents or if the grandchildren request it of me. I am extremely careful not to undermine or usurp the important 'law of the mother' or authority of the father. But I do so enjoy being a part of their life and feel blessed by the LORD to have that privilege.

Last week I was baby sitting my youngest (to date) grandchild and  I will be needed each week day for my youngest daughter again for at least 2 weeks if I am able. My husband and I baby sit his daughter’s 3 children too when needed and we love it. We treat all our grandchildren (both by blood and by marriage) as our own. 

I believe my grandchildren are my children. All that I do for my children, I, likewise, do for my grandchildren. This teaching is from the book of Proverbs where a wise woman builds her house. The building continues on, even long after she has left this earth. For it is not built with human hands, but by the Hands of God Himself. (Genesis 46:15, 18, 22, 25 & Exodus 10:2)

Now the scriptures telling me that my grandchildren are my children are: "These are the sons of Rachel, who were born to Jacob, there were fourteen persons in all." Genesis 46:22 (Genesis 46:15, 18, 25) (Genesis 46:26 - all the persons were Jacob's direct descendants, grandchildren included) (Genesis 48:5) (Leviticus 18:19) (Exodus 31:2 )- Names the father and the grandfather with the son) Rachel only gave birth to two sons: Joseph and Benjamin. But Scripture records her as having fourteen sons! That is because all her grandchildren were considered her children as well. 

The neighbours said to Ruth when her first grandson was born: "And the neighbour women gave him a name, saying, 'A son has been born to Naomi!' So they named him Obed. He is the father of Jesse, the father of David." Ruth 4:17 

Naomi had her first grandson, but the neighbour women called him her son. Lois and Eunice worked together as a team raising Timothy. Ruth and Naomi raised Obed and were part of the raising of King David, his great grandson. Jacob said to Joseph, "And now your two sons, Ephraim and Manasseh, who were born to you in the land of Egypt before I came to you in Egypt, are mine; as Reuben and Simeon, they shall be mine." Genesis 48:5 … "as Reuben and Simeon, they shall be mine." This means Jacob's grandsons are just as his sons! Wise women realise that their grandchildren are their children, too.

Isn’t God so very very good! Yes, life is busy with children and grandchildren….but I wouldn’t have it any other way. God willing, God will bless us with more. We can hardly wait!  May you enjoy being a grandmother to your grandchildren as much as I do to mine.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Friday, 27 January 2017

HAPPY AUSTRALIA DAY!

Today is Australia Day. Most Australians will celebrate to commemorate the landing of the First Fleet in Sydney Cove on January 26th, 1788. It was originally called "First Landing Day". Governor Macquarie declared it a holiday in 1818.

We have Aussie flags everywhere today: on our front door, in our vans' window and on the kiddies' trampoline. Unlike some people here, we do not paint our faces, but we may do our grandchildrens' if they want...

Today we have a National Holiday and we will join hundreds of Aussies in partaking of our greatest fun family activity: the Aussie barbie or BBQ So I will be joining my sister in our kitchen shortly and make up a giant bowl of salad to go with our marinated steaks and sausages.

We will be pausing to thank the LORD for such a wonderful country and for praying for our Prime Minister, Malcolm Turnbull.

To all Aussies reading today: Happy Australia Day from our home to yours!

Blessings, Glenys

Remember them which have the rule over you, Hebrews 13:7a..




Wednesday, 25 January 2017

LETTER TO THOSE REMARRYING



As most of you already know, I am a remarried woman after a divorce from a violence-filled 25 year marriage. In my new marriage we have 6 adult children and 15 grandchildren between us. This can make for lots of misunderstandings when a new marriage takes place.

This discussion is not to debate the theological issues or fault-finding. It is to encourage you in making a truly fresh start as you seek to blend not only your lives, but that of any children of previous marriages. So here a few thoughts that come to mind.

Try not to fall into the trap of comparing former spouses or marriages. I think it is detrimental to the forming of a new family bond to liken your new marriage with your past one or to compare habits, lifestyle etc. Woe be to the spouse who voices an unfavourable comparison to his/her spouse- that is a powder keg of gunpowder in a new marriage!

Make a pact before the marriage where there are his and her children to treat them all equitably and restrain from making comparisons between yours and theirs.

It is critical to the new marriage and family that past issues have been discussed and sorted out if possible. Never in the heat of an argument should it be said that "you sound just like he/she did!" This is a whole new ball game!

Resolve to keep the priorities of a Christian home as they should be:

God

Husband

Wife

Children

Home

Church

Do not enlist your children as back up should an argument arise! They are no longer part of the former marriage but should be included into the new marriage as children of that marriage and not used as ammunition or cover.

Keep unkind comments about the other spouse's children, ex-spouse and family to yourself- it is counter-productive to the peace of your new marriage to drag that up.

Concentrate on fostering a peaceful home for the nurturing of children who are undergoing the test of a life-time and try to see the situation through their eyes. They probably are grieving over the loss of their dream of Mum and Dad getting back together. Be understanding and compassionate.

Even if you cannot in all honesty say you love them as your own, show your step-children Christ-like love and compassion and guide them towards acceptance of this new situation.

Remember that some things will trigger a flash back for you or your spouse from the previous marriage and try to be forgiving and understanding of them or yourself.

Above all, make Christ the Head of your home and marriage and commit this marriage into His keeping. Remember the reasons for the first marriage's demise and try to learn from it so as not to repeat any mistakes of the past.

Ask forgiveness from the LORD for any fault of your own and then move on to a new life of faith and forgiveness, resolving to make this marriage and new family solid on the firm foundation of Christ and His peace and love, and particularly, of His forgiveness and grace.


© Glenys Robyn Hicks


But thou, O Lord, [art] a God full of compassion, and gracious, longsuffering, and plenteous in mercy and truth. Psalm 86:15

Tuesday, 24 January 2017

DAMNED IF YOU DO, DAMNED IF YOU DON'T



 

blogging friend Joluise wrote a post about smacking a child.  Now I do not advocate smacking for every tiny infringement that a child makes, and as an abused child, I definitely can see where corporal punishment on a regular basis could lead to raising a nervous child who lacks self-confidence and who exhibits a fearful demeanour.

However, I do believe in the scriptures which admonish us to not spare the rod and ruin the child... and in practice, I have found an occasional but controlled smack over the seat of the pants, does no harm. In fact, it gives children boundaries. And perversely, it makes children feel loved because of it.

I remember a few years ago, my daughter and I went clothes shopping. Her 3 year old son ran amok in Target, knocking clothes off racks and running into people. We tried to restrain him, but he just continued wreaking havoc. People were giving us disgusted looks. Finally, in desperation, my daughter gave her son a quick and controlled smack over his bottom which brought him immediately into line.

Alas, she was confronted with angry looks and tut tuts from fellow shoppers for smacking him! Almost in tears, she remarked loudly enough for them to hear that she was damned if she did, and damned if she didn't smack him to bring him into line. Sometimes a smack over the 'seat of learning' works really well... but it is now a sad thing to be afraid to do it for fear of being reported to authorities. I feel sorry for young mums today...they are living in a world which mostly has turned its back on godly wisdom.  We are paying the price by bringing up children who rule us....


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. Isaiah 3:12




Monday, 23 January 2017

OF SURRENDER AND RESPITE



Accepting that one's life is going to be difficult due to ongoing illness makes for a happier life. When the chronically ill person decides to give it to God, and to cling to Him instead of succumbing to false guilt or anger, life takes on a normality in what many would see as anything but. It is a surrender, if you will.

Because we suffer does not make us second-class Christians, as some false teachings would purport. Nor does it mean we are faithless or aren't reading our Bibles or standing on the promises of God regarding healing. 

Furthermore, being ill does not check us out of God's watchful Eye of concern, or mean that He is an uncompassionate God. No, we all are subject to frailties and problems in the flesh because we live in a fallen world... we have not been singled out to suffer...

God has given us things to do in our suffering and it is important that we stay close to Him and continue to read the Word and pray. It is not that God has moved, when He feels far away during a flare or illness, but our emotions are also hurting as a result of our condition. 

It is important to pray that God heal us, and to ask the Church to anoint us with oil according to the Scriptures... It is essential to our emotional and spiritual health to  stay in the faith and believe that God can heal us, but to pray for strength until- or even IF it is His will to do so.

I know that should/when another flare comes for me that I will have to cling to Jesus and reread what I have written here (for I write it for myself as well as you).  I will need to surrender this next painful chapter of my life, knowing that God will still be there for me.

Surrendering our pain and our life to God is the only thing we can do.... meanwhile, I thank Him for the few days of respite....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Is any among you afflicted? let him pray. Is any merry? let him sing psalms.Is any sick among you? Let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him,anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him.  James 5:13-15

Saturday, 21 January 2017

A LETTER TO PARENTS OF PRODIGALS


My husband and I have experienced the reality of knowing, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth” 3 John 4 Our two daughters professed Christ at an early age, witnessed in their schools, traveled on mission trips, and embarked into adult life with a passion for Christ. Our family life has been built around joy and laughter; and even through the teen years, we enjoyed close family times backpacking and ministering together here and abroad. The girls have been characterized as leaders, constantly encouraging and challenging those around them to live their Christian beliefs.

It always brought us great joy knowing that our children were walking in the truth. Then one bought into a lie. Now we see the flip side to the above verse; there is no greater sorrow than seeing your children walk in a lie. Since our daughter’s ungodly choices, we have grieved for the loss of our close family relationships, for our witness in our community and family, over the eventual consequences of her decisions, and even grieved that God would allow this to happen.

Our joy, peace, energy, and focus have been drained and replaced with despair, anger, fatigue and distraction. We have been plagued by questions. How could this happen? What should we do? What would influence her? How should we respond? Our close family was thrown into crisis; joy turned to sorrow, and lies twisted truth. The parable of the prodigal son has become a real and personal journey with a precious, yet prodigal, daughter.

At one point in this heavy journey, I had a mental picture of us facing our prodigal daughter, she standing with her back to us. We were pleading and begging for her to turn around, listen to God’s Word, and recognize the lies. Then the focus shifted and God was standing behind me, my back turned to Him, and He was calling me to turn around and to recognize the lies. God was trying to get my attention while I was trying to get my daughter’s attention. Her lies were different from mine, but nonetheless I had also been ensnared by lies. God was pleading with me to recognize and accept His truth in my own life.

God’s truth needs to be sorted from the enemy’s lies.

I cannot allow my daughter’s actions to define me, but I can, through God’s help, allow them to refine me. Through godly counsel and His Word, the truth is being sifted from the enemy’s subtle and pervasive lies. The refinement process is not complete, but I have identified, examined, and discarded the following lies:

Lie #1: What if?

The enemy loves to get us into the “what if” or blame game. What if I had been more persuasive? What if I had counseled her with more studied words? What if I had been more discerning? What if I had just been a better mom? I was consumed with analyzing every nuance over the past years, reviewing my interactions, and questioning my role as both mother and wife.

My analytical thoughts became paralyzing and I spiraled downward into a pit of remorse and inadequacy. Slowly through the slime, I began to see that it is not all about me. My eloquence or lack of it, my parenting skills or lack of them, will not ultimately change a heart. That is the Holy Spirit’s job. I can be obedient to God’s direction. I can do the best I can in parenting and counseling. But the ultimate work is God’s. My pleas will not bring a prodigal into right thinking, right living, or right decisions.

Our daughter made this choice in spite of Scripture, godly models, and counsel, and she will also reap the consequences of her choice. Ezekiel 18:20 reminds us that “…the son will not share the guilt of the father, nor will the father share the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous man will be credited to him, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against him.” I can neither accept the blame nor take the credit. The “what ifs” must cease because they are not from God.

Lie #2: If you parent well enough, your child will not make ungodly choices.

When my daughter turned away from her firm foundation, I questioned how this could happen to my family. Subconsciously and incorrectly, I presumed that Proverbs 22:6, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” guaranteed a child’s godly choices. The Lord showed me, through my own heartache, that I have wrongly judged others and their parenting ability. I thought if someone had a child not walking with the Lord, it was always a direct reflection on their parenting skills. Now on the other side with a wayward daughter, I realize the lie and repent of my judgment of others. Godly parenting does not guarantee a godly child.

Lie #3: My prodigal adult child disqualifies me for ministry.

One of the qualifications listed in 1 Tim. 3:4 for an overseer is to “manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect.” This does not refer to adult children. But Satan wants to fuel our insecurities, have us focus on our inadequacies, and cripple our ministries. Instead of stepping out of ministry, we should step up to be used by God. The more open and transparent we are in our parenting journey, the more dependent we are on Him for strength, and the more opportunities there will be for us to minister.

During the painful times of answering concerned inquires about our daughter, has emerged a new openness for those sharing similar burdens. One embarrassing instance of addressing pointed questions at a neighborhood party resulted in a phenomenal opportunity to share God’s truth. Leadership is not about being perfect individuals. It is about being humbly obedient and available. Transparency and vulnerability can make us better servant ministers.

Lie #4: God is powerless to intervene.

Somewhere in this extended battle, I crossed the line from believing God would not act to believing God could not act. I fell prey to the lie that God could not change our daughter’s mind or way. My personal systematic theology had me spinning in circles around God’s sovereignty and the free will of man. The Lord had chosen to not answer my fervent prayers to radically intervene in our daughter’s life. Since faith and hope are intricately entwined, I was hopeless.

My view of God was too small. I do not understand how God’s sovereignty and free will work, but I have become convinced that God is so much bigger than we can ever imagine. He can and will intervene if He so chooses. This mom needs to trust more, worry less, and stop trying to figure everything out. He is God and I am not! My God, our God, is a God of hope that fills us with all joy and peace as we trust in Him (Rom. 15:13), and He is more than able to do great things.

This mother’s journey in parenting a prodigal is far from over. The hurt and sadness are still very real and close. But as the Lord has revealed the insidiousness of the enemy’s lies, the burden has become more manageable. Now I can focus on what I am learning and not on what my daughter should be learning. This was reiterated during a recent visit. We were scheduled to rendezvous with our precious prodigal after church.

The sermon was unexpectedly all too relevant: “Grace Demands a Death.” The pastor pointed out that if we are to extend grace, as Christ did, we must also experience death. As parents, we need to die to our dreams, our desires, and our expectations for our children. We need to love them unconditionally, expecting nothing in return. Still stirred from this poignant message, we exited the church building and saw our daughter standing on the far side of the parking lot.

My husband ran to our cold, stiff daughter, standing sullenly by the car, and wrapped her in a warm, loving hug. That was our best visit to date! My hope has been renewed; He is restoring my soul. Like Habakkuk, I will wait and keep watch from the ramparts to see what the Lord will do. God is in control and He loves us and our prodigals dearly. author unknown

As a mother of a prodigal, I found this article very truthful and helpful. To all parents of prodigals I say, "Don't look inward, behind or forward- just keep looking up! And remember that Jesus loves your child as much as you do!"

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“Bear one another burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ” Galatians 6:2

Friday, 20 January 2017

LAUNDRY BLUES

Have you ever thought that doing the washing was not that important? Clothes are a witness to the world of the type of wife or mother you are. It is said that clothes maketh the man. In this world of ours, where man looks on the outward appearance, it is true. God does know our heart but man only has his senses to go by. If our family’s clothes are not cared for properly, if our husband goes to the office in an unironed shirt or crumpled trousers, not only does it reflect badly on you, but also may hold him back from that promotion he has been hoping for.

The children’s clothing too can tell whether a child is loved or not. A child may very well have clothing that has dirt on it from play, but most of us can tell if a child’s clothing is really just dirty from play or plain filthy. I believe that clothes should be well maintained and ironed. They should be modest and reflect cleanliness and be spotless. Proverbs tells us that the godly woman wears expensive clothing. She dresses well and maintains her family’s clothes. Her husband is known at the gates of the city- obviously well respected. Can you imagine the amount of respect he would have if he was dressed in clothing that was dirty and crumpled?

Doing the family washing is not hard if you think it through. I wash everything in cold water. I soak the whites overnight in cold water and detergent which is specifically made for cold water washing. I do the same with the towels. I add a 50/50 solution of white vinegar and fabric softener- that makes them nice and fluffy and odour-free. My washing is always clean and fresh. I usually hang it outside to dry or over the clothes horse under a ducted heating vent in the wet days. Saves on electricity bills and I also think I save money by using the cold water. (My Mum always used warm water/ cold rinse) But honestly, we are on a tight budget and I need to squeeze every way I can to save money. I have found that sometimes hot water washing can make clothes stiff and they can lose their colour quickly.

I know that doing the washing seems to be one of those chores that we either love or hate. It seems a small thing, yet the maintenance of our clothes detract or enhance our overall presentation and speaks volumes. I am sure the Proverbs 31 woman must have taken pride in her washing and family’s presentation- we can afford to do no less!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


"Her husband is known in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land" Proverbs 31:23

Thursday, 19 January 2017

WHAT DOES GOD WANT ME TO DO?






Often we wonder what exactly God wants us to do now that we know Him.. the answers can be found in His Word

He wants us to stay faithful to Him

O LORD, thou art my God; I will exalt thee, I will praise thy name; for thou hast done wonderful [things; thy] counsels of old are faithfulness and truth. Isaiah 25:1

He wants us to stay in the calling in which we were called

Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 1 Corinthians 7:20

He wants us to love Him with our whole mind, body and strength

And it shall come to pass, if ye shall hearken diligently unto my commandments which I command you this day, to love the LORD your God, and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul, Deuteronomy 11:13

So if you are a wife, you are to stay faithful to your marriage vows. If you are a mother, then that is your calling and you don't have to be unhappy and seek other callings. God has placed you where you are. This is where you serve Him.

In your faith to God. In your marriage. In your mothering. In your homemaking.

God requires your heart. Your love. Your faithfulness. 

Grow in His love, imitating Him. Bloom where you are planted. Walk with integrity and honour and love.  

That's what God wants us to do....



© Glenys Robyn Hicks


He hath shewed thee, O man, what [is] good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

JESUS CHRIST THE RIGHTEOUS



We all give way to fear at times.... chronic illness in ourselves or those we love tends to do that... but it does give me great comfort to know that we have Jesus Christ the righteous interceding on our behalf...
I fear possible heart surgery and the probability that I may not grow to be old bones, and when I dwell on that, it can consume me with fear... and it is then that I make myself consider Whose I am and Who holds me in His Hand...
With many trials for myself and the illness almost unto death of my youngest daughter with leukaemia 2 years ago, I can testify that God made His Presence known in a tangible way... and when I was too emotionally spent to pray at my daughter's sick bed in ICU, His Holy Spirit was not only hovering around me but inside me... the peace that passed all human understanding was very, very real..

Jesus is our High Priest. We do not need an intermediary nor do we need to pray to Saints... we have a High Priest with our best interest in His loving Heart, praying to our Father- His Father, for us...
Let's keep that in mind when we fall into fear... Jesus Christ the righteous is always there, and perfect love casts out fear ....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. 1 John 2:1
Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.' Isaiah 41:10

Tuesday, 17 January 2017

IT COULD BE BETTER

 

When I was married the first time, my husband was not a believer. I was born again 9 years after we married.  I prayed the kind of prayers that only an unequally yoked wife can... Chris is a believer, but I know the anguish being spiritually unyoked can bring... Here is a prayer for the unequally yoked wife...

Father, you said it is not good that man be alone, and in Your love, You created a help meet just for him.


You ordained the first marriage in the Garden of Eden.

And You said it was good! LORD, we who love you and marriage have found ourselves tasting of the beauty in marriage and we agree with You: it is good. 

But he who we have covenanted to love forever is not yet in Your Kingdom- we are together but still lonely... our spirits long for soul intimacy with our husband. 

What we know is good could be much better!  We ask that You bring our husbands into Your Kingdom. A threefold cord isn't easily broken. 

Please grant us our hearts' desire LORD, for being equally yoked is in Your Will..We  pray for strength,

Patience and love to endure this lonely path known only to a Christian wife Who wants a truly godly marriage.


In Jesus' Name we pray.  Amen.



 © Glenys Robyn Hicks


For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?  1 Corinthians 7:16

Sunday, 15 January 2017

WOMANHOOD IS GOD'S PLAN


As a  friend of mine  said,  women are  made to feel so guilty for being women-   wanting  to marry,  stay   home  and  keep  house  and  mother  our children!   We  have  nothing to  thank  the  feminist movement for. .. our identity as women  has  been  trampled  on  and  we who  wish to stay at  home  have had  that dream sullied by strident women who have penis envy!

We women are created to nurture. It is in our nature to pick up a dolly and embrace her from the time we can grasp her and bring her to our chest and lips... it is entirely natural for us to offer that dolly sustenance from a toy bottle or even our breast, in imitation of our mothers feeding younger siblings...

How many of us have received a cup of tea from tiny teacups, sipping it slowly to delight our little hostesses who are still too young to be entrusted with real teapots and teacups?  Or watched the toddler girl trying to tuck her baby into her tiny dolly's pram, covering its head completely and far too young to really tuck her in? -yet her tenderness and concern is charming to watch...

Now the feminists try to tell us that we are responsible for training our daughters to become servile, and meek and weak, forcing them into a life of subservience that thwarts their potential both personally and financially.  It is easy to see that the majority of these feminists have not mothered sons who will toddle up to a dolly and proceed to poke at her eyes and twist her joints and disrobe her in an attempt to see how she works... his interest is one of inquisitiveness.... he too is doing what comes naturally to him. Working things out in a practical way...

Feminists have been instrumental in promoting contraception and abortion on demand.  They have stolen a lot of women's dreams of being mothers and have often lied to them about consequences that they say are  detrimental to them- mostly career achievements that in the end leave them with empty arms and ashes in their mouth. 

Even the married woman is convinced that her desire to be a mother is misplaced, especially if her desire is for a large family, and sadly even in some churches, this is seen to be an ambition that is frowned upon.  Yet God Himself has placed the desire to bear children and to bring children up, in our hearts.  Yet many feel guilty that they have these desires.... desires which are God given and good.

What God considers of great importance, creating a happy home for the raising of children unto Him, with the blessing of marriage and a committed father, is being destroyed by feminists who are often self-proclaimed lesbian man-haters... women who see marriage as a male invention of tyranny and control, and pregnancy as the undesirable biological entrapment of their gender...

From an early age a little girl will often be fascinated by brides and all the trimmings of a wedding, and again this is natural.  Yet feminists have now managed to influence girls to delay getting married or to cohabit without expecting or even wanting to be married, and again we find the women of today who secretly long to be married feeling guilty for desiring something that really is their birthright as women.  Feminism has taken away that which is precious to our identity as women- being a wife and enjoying the security and esteem that being married brings to a woman who loves her man...

Whilst some feminists did marry and have children, most divorced as their feminist ways weren't conducive to a happy marriage.  Still others cohabited but remained voluntarily childless... many took lesbian lovers.. 

Now not everyone is called to be married and mothers, but these feminist women have so trampled on our natural identity as women that young women and girls are feeling guilty for being women!  They are so confused with what they want in life that they are not only guilty that they want marriage, home and children  but that they are also afraid.  They are often forced to excel at school and university in order to provide for themselves, and are often in the position of finding out that even though they do now want marriage and motherhood, that they have left their run too late.  

Thanks to feminism making women guilty and afraid of their womanhood, many women who in the natural scheme of things, should already be wives and mothers, are doomed to remain single.  Or, hearing the biological clock  ticking, they find their only option to at least become mothers limited to a one night stand or artificial insemination.... hardly ideal for the foundation of a new family...

I know this is true because I have an acquaintance who has fallen for the feminists' lies and who now has found herself in exactly that position.... we are waiting to see how she approaches being childless, which incidentally happened to Germaine Greer after she discovered she did in fact want a child but was unable to have one....

All this feminist clap-trap has done nothing for womankind but heap coals of fire on young women's heads. What should be a natural God-given course of life for a woman has been thwarted and defiled... Countless women have actually become victims of feminists' lies and are destined to live out lonely sad lives... lives rich in worldly possessions but poor in those things of eternal value.

I am sorry for the young women today who feel guilty for being a woman.... I pray that they will come to realise that they are victims of feminist women who tried to liberate them from the good things God had for them, but who instead bound them up in chains of regret and longings that they will have to endure for the rest of their lonely lives...

Please ladies, don't let feminists make you feel guilty for being a woman...


© Glenys Robyn Hicks


He maketh the barren woman to keep house, [and to be] a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD. Psalm 113:9

Saturday, 14 January 2017

DON'T STEP OUT FROM UNDER GOD'S UMBRELLA

A book I have just finished reading again after many years is “You Can Be The Wife Of A Happy Husband” by Darien B Cooper. In one of her chapters she tells of God’s Umbrella of protection through His Divine Order.In a world where we see the havoc that comes from stepping out of the umbrella of God’s protection, it would serve us well to reassess just what the Divine Order of God’s Protection is. Darien has illustrated the Divine Order in the diagram above.

The illustration is self-explanatory really. In my own life, I have found that when this order wasn’t followed, my life would be out of kilter. I remember the times when I was working outside of the home, that trying to keep the home going as normal, mother my children and be available to my husband at all times produced stress in me that often would end up in illness. I was over committed and fatigued.

God brought me full circle to being a stay at home mother and enjoying it by having me walk through some very rocky valleys. I was hospitalised for weeks at a time during which I was shown how much I did appreciate my home and miss being with my family. A bout of glandular fever which lasted for 6 months, brought home to me that my job was creating a lot of stress that God did not require me to carry. And my children were not being cared for properly by a woman I paid a lot of money to, for before and after school care.

About this time, I was being discipled by a lovely group of Titus 2 women who were the most contented and fulfilled women I had ever met. Through all of these experiences, God showed me that the Divine Order is the best. These women taught me about our priorities as godly women. And I am blessed today to have had the privilege of being a stay at home mother for most of my children’s formative years. I am so grateful to God and to those women.  

When a woman places herself under the protection of God’s Umbrella of Divine Order, she not only finds fulfillent as a wife, mother and homemaker, but she allows her husband to become the head of his home- the position given him by God in His wisdom. By allowing her husband to lead, she is strengthening her marriage and home and creating strong bonds to develop between not only her children to their father, but herself and her husband. Where a marriage is strong, there is every chance that godly children will be raised.

Where there is chronic illness, staying under God's Umbrella actually shelters us from trying to take on more than He intends us to have. He knows we are stretched to the limit already and He intends to shelter us from unnecessary burdens we weren't meant to bear.

God has provided the blueprint for a successful marriage and family. It is we who mess things up when we live outside of that blueprint by coming out from under the Umbrella of God’s protection. I urge you ladies, to rethink your life and check if you are living under the protection of the LORD. If not, it would be to your eternal advantage to take measures to step back under His protection and allow God to protect you and your family.

God provides protection for your husband too when he is under His Umbrella of Protection. In providing for you and the family, and despite perhaps being an unbeliever, he is still to be respected as the head of the home. But even so, he is to be in submission to God. This is God’s Divine Order. Many a family has come to ruin because a husband has allowed a wife to usurp his God-given authority as head of the home, and forced his wife to take on the role of leader- a position that God did not intend her to have to take.

We all know of marriages that have suffered because the wife has usurped her husband’s role and has decided to lead. It is often a cause for divorce at the most and the husband’s dissatisfaction at the least. And in this day and age particularly, we often see children ruling the home with demands, petulant displays of temper and tantrums, excessive shouting and fighting, argumentativeness, surliness and disobedience. This is another case of God’s Divine Order being breached- and the family suffer the consequences. Children come under the parents in the Divine Order.

Seeing the trouble that breaching the Divine Order makes for us, we would be wise indeed to stop and reflect just where we are in our own life- and if we find we have come out from under God’s Umbrella of protection for us, we would be prudent in getting back into order so that God can bless us and lighten our daily cares.
I sincerely praise God for making His ways known to us so that we and our loved ones may be blessed as we live under His protection and love.


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

He hath shewed thee, O man, what [is] good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 

Thursday, 12 January 2017

OF HEALING AND FORGIVENESS


Recently, I have been challenged by God to let go of things that have held me captive for many years. Things that are contrary to the Spirit and which have held me back from being Christ-like and robbed  me of my spiritual and emotional health. And quite possibly  this has effected my physical health too.

For years I have held resentment towards my ex-husband for the years of abuse in our 25 year marriage. I believe that his abuse and my reaction to it has taken an immense toll on my health, leading me into many of the problems I now am suffering. Medical science seems to back up my theory and I have felt justified in feeling this way.

I also have felt immensely resentful that his partner, who he met just 5 weeks after our separation, came into his life so quickly where as I had to wait 4 long years before meeting my husband Chris. Furthermore, I have been cynical and angry about the way he treated her compassionately during back surgery and family problems but was *never* there for me during all the years of mine.

Suffering from emphysema and putting his house in order, my ex-husband came over to speak to Chris and I at my son-in-law's 30th birthday party. This is something unheard of and I must admit I nearly squeezed Chris's hand off as my ex pulled up a chair beside me.

I had mixed feelings of sadness, regret and relief when he conversed cordially with me, mostly about our children.  If only he could have been like that when we were married!  However, I believe, along with Chris, that he is seeking forgiveness from me and is literally putting things right in these final years of his life.

He has my forgiveness and my pity! But not my love.  Sure, I will probably cry when I attend his funeral for my children's sake. You can't have 4 children to someone and spend a quarter of a century with them and not be affected in some way.  But I could never be married to him again or even see him that often.   I am not that strong.

I know that Christ has done a good work in me that I was able to sit there and talk instead of run at the sound of his voice. But in reality, he can no longer hurt me. The only way he could still hurt me is if I harbour unforgiveness.  I don't.

As I said, God has been speaking to my heart. He has been impressing me that now is the time to let it all go.. I can say that I have forgiven him for sins of the past and though I am not saying that I will ever have a super friendly relationship with my ex, I know that I can at least now meet without the ghosts of marriage and years past looming over me and spoiling  my  todays.

Today, I feel lighter in my spirit and freer! Chris has been telling me over and over words of affection that I have longed to hear. Words of commitment and love that have made my heart glad... He thinks I am a strong woman: I don't know if I am or not...

Letting go of the past is hard to do, but for our sake and the sake of  He Who we love, we should try. I couldn't have done this without the help of the LORD! He is and has been so good to me!  If you have things of the past holding you back, ask God for a spirit that is willing to forgive and let go....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but [this] one thing [I do], 
forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, Philippians 3:13

Since I wrote this post, my ex-husband has died. Yes, I did cry and out of respect for his new partner, I opted to not attend his funeral, but minded all our grandchildren who were too young to attend... 

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

WOMEN WHO RUINED OUR LIVES PART 7



In this 7 part series, we will see the origins of the feminist movement and how it goes against God and His teachings on the ministry of wife and mother... and we will see how the seeds of discontent were sown for women and why the abortion industry has flourished..

Germaine Greer was born in Melbourne in 1939, growing up in the bayside suburb of Mentone. Her father was a newspaper advertising rep' who served in the wartime RAAF. After attending a private convent school, Star of the Sea College, in Gardenvale, she won a teaching scholarship in 1956 and enrolled at the University of Melbourne. After graduating with a degree in English and French language and literature, she moved to Sydney, where she became involved with the Sydney Push social milieu and the anarchist Sydney Libertarians at its centre.   By 1972 Greer would identify as an anarchist communist, close to Marxism.

In her first teaching post, Greer lectured at the University of Sydney, where she also earned a first class MA in romantic poetry in 1963 with a thesis entitled The Development of Byron's Satiric Mode. A year later, the thesis won her a Commonwealth Scholarship, which she used to fund her doctorate at the University of Cambridge in England, where she became a member of the all-women's Newnham College.

Professor Lisa Jardine, who was at Newnham at the same time, recalled the first time she met Greer, at a formal dinner in college: "The principal called us to order for the speeches. As a hush descended, one person continued to speak, too engrossed in her conversation to notice, her strong Australian accent reverberating around the room. 

At the graduates' table, Germaine was explaining that there could be no liberation for women, no matter how highly educated, as long as we were required to cram our breasts into bras constructed like mini-Vesuviuses, two stitched white cantilevered cones which bore no resemblance to the female anatomy. The willingly suffered discomfort of the Sixties bra, she opined vigorously, was a hideous symbol of male oppression.... [We were] astonished at the very idea that a woman could speak so loudly and out of turn and that words such as 'bra' and 'breasts' – could be uttered amid the pseudo-masculine solemnity of a college dinner

In 1968 she received her Ph.D. on the topic of Elizabethan drama with a thesis titled The Ethic of Love and Marriage in Shakespeare's early comedies, and accepted a lectureship in English at the University of Warwick in Coventry. The same year, in London, she married British carpenter and remodeler Paul du Feu, but the marriage lasted only three weeks, during which, as she later admitted, Greer was unfaithful several times.The marriage ended in divorce in 1973.
Here is a snippet of this little darling's sad mind: "I have always been principally interested in men for sex. I've always thought any sane woman would be a lover of women because loving men is such a mess. I have always wished I'd fall in love with a woman. Damn."   

Here we have a self-confessed adulteress who lusts after the experience of lesbianism. And to think that society allowed these over educated, over opiniated, strident man-haters and baby murderers (for they all advocated abortion on demand), to shape and mould not only womankind, but mankind... more fool those of us who listened to them.... The stage for feminism was well set... and look who our teachers were....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Isaiah 3:11-13 Woe unto the wicked! it shall be ill with him: for the reward of his hands shall be given him. As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. The LORD standeth up to plead, and standeth to judge the people.

Tuesday, 10 January 2017

WOMEN WHO RUINED OUR LIVES PART 6



In this 7 part series, we will see the origins of the feminist movement and how it goes against God and His teachings on the ministry of wife and mother... and we will see how the seeds of discontent were sown for women and why the abortion industry has flourished..

Jane Mansbridge studies the theory and practice of democracy, paying special attention to the position in different democratic schemes of members of disadvantaged groups. Her forthcoming book, “Everyday Feminism,” examines the role in social movements of “everyday activists,” those who do not participate in formal activities such as demonstrations or organizations of a social movement.

At the Radcliffe Institute, Mansbridge will address current “democratic deficits” by arguing against too great a focus on electoral democracy, accountability, transparency, and reduced delegation. She advocates selection systems that favor integrity in public office and allow considerable discretion to representatives. Such selection, she believes, should be combined with institutions of direct citizen participation that provide new incentives for representatives to increase communication between representatives and constituents and to follow the considered wishes of their constituents.

Mansbridge graduated from Wellesley College in 1961 and earned her MA from Harvard’s history department in 1966 and her PhD from its government department in 1971. She has been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences (1997–1998 and 2001–2002), the Russell Sage Foundation (1991–1992), and the Institute for Advanced Study (1985–1986), as well as a Rockefeller Foundation Humanities Fellow (1982–1983), Institute for Policy Studies Associate Fellow (1972–1973), and National Science Foundation Postdoctoral Research Fellow (1971–1972). 

She was elected a member of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences in 1994. Her second book, Why We Lost the ERA (University of Chicago Press, 1986), was a corecipient of the American Political Science Association’s Victoria Schuck Award (1988) and Gladys M. Kammerer Award (1987).

Here is a snippet of this child-hating woman:  "If women disproportionately take time off from their careers to have children, or if they work less hard than men at their careers while their children are young, this will put them at a competitive disadvantage vis-a-vis men, particularly men whose wives do all the homemaking and child care…. This means that no matter how any individual feminist might feel about child care and housework, the movement as a whole had reasons to discourage full-time homemaking.” — Why We Lost the ERA, 1986.
Here this woman is denigrating motherhood and full-time homemaking and encouraging society to see children and careers as two separate poles... what she fails to see is that full-time homemaking and motherhood is a career in itself, and she thus forces the woman who chooses this path to feel inferior to the childless woman with a career...

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Isaiah 3:11-13 Woe unto the wicked! it shall be ill with him: for the reward of his hands shall be given him. As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. The LORD standeth up to plead, and standeth to judge the people.

Monday, 9 January 2017

WOMEN WHO RUINED OUR LIVES PART 5




In this 7 part series, we will see the origins of the feminist movement and how it goes against God and His teachings on the ministry of wife and mother... and we will see how the seeds of discontent were sown for women and why the abortion industry has flourished..

Considered by many as the “mother” of the second wave of modern feminism, activist and writer Betty Friedan was one of the most influential feminist leaders of the sixties.Considered by many as the “mother” of the second wave of modern feminism, activist and writer Betty Friedan was one of the most influential feminist leaders of the second half of the twentieth century, a co-founder of the National Organization for Women (NOW) and its first president. She served on the boards of leading women’s organizations, fought for legislation to ensure women’s equality and wrote books analyzing women’s role in society and the women’s movement. 

Bettye Naomi Goldstein was born on February 4, 1921, in Peoria, Illinois. Her father, Harry Goldstein, an immigrant from Russia, owned a jewelry store; her mother gave up her position as editor of the women’s page of the local paper to raise her family. Bettye attended Smith College, majoring in psychology and editing the college newspaper. Under her stewardship, the paper became a forum for the fight against fascism abroad and in favor of union organizing at home. She graduated summa cum laude in 1942. 

Betty, who dropped what she thought the pretentious “e” at the end of her given name, became a psychology research fellow at the University of California in Berkeley for a year after graduation, before moving to New York to work as a reporter. There, she became involved in labor union activity, working for union publications as a labor journalist and pamphlet writer and showing a keen interest in working women’s issues. 

In 1947, she married Carl Friedan (d. 2004), a summer-stock producer who later became an advertising executive. The marriage, which continued for twenty-two years, produced three children. Friedan continued working after her first child was born in 1949 and received maternity leave, but she was forced to leave her job during her second pregnancy in 1953. She spent the next decade raising her two sons and a daughter. She continued to be a writer, this time for middle-class women’s magazines.
Snippets of this discontented woman's thoughts:  “[Housewives] are mindless and thing-hungry…not people. [Housework] is peculiarly suited to the capacities of feeble-minded girls. [It] arrests their development at an infantile level, short of personal identity with an inevitably weak core of self…. [Housewives] are in as much danger as the millions who walked to their own death in the concentration camps. [The] conditions which destroyed the human identity of so many prisoners were not the torture and brutality, but conditions similar to those which destroy the identity of the American housewife.” — The Feminine Mystique, 1963.
Here this woman has the gall to presume that domestic women are feeble minded. To state that this is akin to the deaths of the Holocaust is offensive to any woman... Sadly again, women have bought her lies...to their own hurt. 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Isaiah 3:11-13 Woe unto the wicked! it shall be ill with him: for the reward of his hands shall be given him. As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. The LORD standeth up to plead, and standeth to judge the people.
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