We live in a society that disposes of things that could be repaired, without so much as a thought. The TV goes grainy, or the washer breaks down, and immediately a new one is purchased.
Friendships are left for dead at the slightest argument instead of working on it and preserving it. On average a person will move house every 4 years. We are geared to instant fixes and change.
Raising children is often too much effort and the mother will leave her children in day care when it isn't even necessary that she work outside the home. Or if the family is affluent, children are packed off to boarding school so others have the task of raising them.
Something that I find worrying is the increase in divorce, even amongst the church. People in general bail out too soon in their marriage and don't allow much time to sort out difficulties. Because of society's immediate gratification leaning, often they find that working through problems takes far too much effort. It is easier to simply give up on it.
In line with this, I am completely baffled that often divorced people say that they remain good friends and that they have an amicable relationship. They often say that they are better friends now than when they were married. I wonder about that and my question is- if they can remain good friends, then why are they divorced?
A quite common occurrence in society today is the trial separation... In my opinion, this is the first step to complete breakdown of a marriage. Reconciliation is much harder with separate lives. In fact, statistics show that most married people who are in a trial separation either quickly learn to enjoy their pseudo freedom, or another person enters the scene, thereby causing adultery to become part of this new lifestyle. It brings death to a marriage and violates scripture for Christian marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:5
Please note that I am not talking about a separation for spousal abuse of you or your children.... if you are being abused, it is imperative that you distance yourself from it. There must be time given for repentance for the abuser and it only is sensible that you are away from harm whilst waiting for change..
What society doesn't take into account much is that trial separation, unfaithfulness, divorce and lack of effort in restoring relationships exact a terrible toll on any children of the marriage. Far better to work things out under the same roof and keep the family intact. Alas, with today's society, it usually is too much effort!
© Glenys Robyn Hicks
"Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency" 1 Corinthians 7:5