Tuesday, 24 May 2016


I feel that feminism has shot all women in the foot. I also blame younger women (generally- I have to be careful because I am not blaming ALL young women) but younger women who dress, act, talk and smoke and cuss like men. They seem to drive aggressively and act aggressive. I don't relate very well to them as women- so how could men? 

I think we have all seen these strident females who seem to bristle at the mere suggestion that they aren't as good as or better than men! Any tougher and they'd rust! These women are now bringing up the younger generation- our grandchildren. It is a fearful thing that they are not teaching their daughters to be modest, demure, homemakers, sweet and loving. 

Often in today's world, today's wives and mothers do not have the back up of extended family like in the past. Their mothers are usually working outside the home or are far away from the things of the LORD. Unless we older women intervene and teach them, what hope have the next generation got? Let us take up the challenge of teaching the younger women to love and respect their husbands, and to love their children. God demands it, and commonsense dictates it. 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks 

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5

Tuesday, 10 May 2016


I have recently been convicted of not setting the table for dinner, but just serving the meal in a haphazard sort of way. So I have started setting the table properly just as I used to do when we still had children at home. I must say that somehow the meals "taste" better with a set table- like drinks seem to taste better when drunk from a glass!

Chris is more relaxed and talkative and has expressed his appreciation of my efforts too! Taking care with food presentation has proven just as important for us with just the two of us as when we had the family eating with us. During my reading of other blogs and Christian sites, I have noticed that a lot of women have been convicted of the same thing, so my news is by no means "hot off the press!" 

Eating together is important for the family's sense of togetherness, whether there are just the two of you or just you and your children. I think we should endeavour to create a peaceful atmosphere whilst we are eating, both for our digestion's sake and our sense of pleasure. When teaching your little ones table manners, it is best that it be done in a calm way so that the children will not develop an aversion to coming to the dinner table.

I remember so well my early years with a drunken father glaring at us whilst we ate or if he was not eating, a bachelor uncle who lived with us, sitting 'tut tutting' as we tried to eat. (it is always easier to bring up someone else's children!) It was very stressful and because we were all nervous, peas would end up rolling over the table to the inevitable "tutting" chorus! We found we all scoffed our food down in order to be excused. The dinner hour was a time of great stress for us- so please make it a time of fellowship, laughter and love for your family!

The family that dines together experiences a richness to their life that the family that eats in front of the TV or in "shifts" misses out on. Aim to have all at the table ready to be served together. Make it the focal point of the day. With Chris being on rotating shift, sometimes I have to serve dinner at lunchtime. You may have to work around your family's schedule too. Even if you set the table nicely for your children and yourself, it will still be quality family time.

When your husband does get to dine with you when his shift allows, your children will be well mannered diners and you should have a great time of dining and fellowship. Dining together as a family is a practice that has been lost in recent years but has recently been rediscovered. May you enjoy rediscovering dining with your family and the pleasure that it brings.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Psalm 128:3 "Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house, thy children like olive plants round about thy table."

Wednesday, 4 May 2016


A few years ago Chris and I were trying out new churches...we attended one where there were cafe type settings to sit at and drinks and food were able to be eaten and drunk while the service was in progress. The music was great and there was a very relaxed atmosphere...too relaxed for Chris and I..

The senior pastor's wife, clad only in a short-really short- pair of shorts and a tube top that showed her midriff, sat on a chair with her knees under her chin... I can still recall the glance Chris gave me, with his eyebrows up- I know that look well... it's The Look when something has offended him....

A deacon went forward to the pulpit to announce some things, and this time it was my turn to give Chris The Look... you know the one- where the mouth goes into a prim line... the Queen Victoria "we are not amused look" Sisters, I tell you the truth, this man's shorts were positively indecent... skimpy to the point of me wanting to close my eyes.... he was nearly falling out of them...

But things got worse...the aforementioned pastor's wife got up and proceeded to lead the Communion service, with her navel clearly visible and her perky body parts pushing through her tight tube top... Chris was uncomfortable and looked at me quizzically, I nodded in agreement with him. We don't have to speak to know what each other is thinking...

Again Chris gave me The Look, and I would have left except it seemed inappropriate to leave before I was prayed for.. Needless to say, we never returned.

Now even though I joked about the "Queen Victoria Look", I am not a prudish person, but I do believe in modest dressing, especially in church. Even more so, the Senior Pastor's wife should have known better. And what of her husband? Shouldn't he have insisted his wife cover herself? especially when leading a communion service... and what about their deacon- he should have been told to wear decent shorts at least. But I guess if the Senior Pastors don't worry, he certainly wouldn't..

At the end of the service, I went to the pastor for anointing with oil and prayer as I was waiting for a hospital bed for my heart stents and I was told that I could possibly die whilst I waited... we are uninsured... I was further taken aback when he refused to get the oil as it was "only a token" and called some young people to pray for me....explaining to them that "this lady has a bad heart and is afraid she will pop her cork!" 

I can't help but think that these two Church planters were more interested in being seen as being "hip" and with it to their younger congregation than honouring the LORD in how they dressed. And his refusal to anoint me with oil and pray for me was offensive to me... obviously at my age and with being an obese blow in from who-knows-where, I wasn't very important to him or "his" church....

When we go to church, Chris and I want to feel important/treasured enough to be prayed for...we do not want to be laughed at when or if we ask for prayer in a time of personal trouble or sickness... If I ask to be anointed with oil, I want to be anointed and it doesn't have to be the Senior Pastor, but someone within the church with the authority of that church to do it...

I want at least to feel respected, even if I am just a visitor, and I was left with the distinct feeling that day that maybe...just maybe, they didn't really respect the LORD in their hearts, just with their words..

If the leadership of that church covered themselves properly, we wouldn't have felt that we should keep our eyes covered.. Let there be propriety and decency in all things pertaining to our LORD..

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing [as] they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: Isaiah 3:16  
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