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Sunday, 24 January 2016

LET'S HOP IN OUR PYJAMAS AND GO SHOPPING!



During late night shopping it is not unusual to see young children clad in pyjamas being taken round the shops with their parents. This is not a problem for me. But what is a problem for me is seeing the parents shopping in theirs.

Shopping in ones' night attire is becoming more popular, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. Unless you are sharing a hospital room with me or are under 5 years old, I really don't want to see you in it. Especially in the shopping centre or petrol station. Somehow, it creeps me out.



I know a lot of people say, "well it's only clothes!" but it's night clothes and like underwear, it is personal. I don't like seeing a vast display of bra straps, underpants, or thongs. I really don't want to be privy to what you wear under your clothes or to bed.



Also, I don't want my grandchildren or your children seeing this because it exudes intimacy and goes over the boundaries of good taste and modesty. Seeing these things leaves little to the imagination and is too much information!

Tesco, a supermarket in England, have banned shopping in pyjamas. I heartily agree. Anyone can take 5 minutes to pull a sweater over their head and to pull up a pair of jeans or a skirt. Even I, as a chronically ill woman, have never gone out shopping in my pyjamas. I do admit to running into the milk bar for some bread in my slippers. But I wouldn't feel comfortable shopping in my pyjamas. Or even going to the letterbox in them.

Why don't I want to be seen out in my pyjamas? you ask. It just isn't seemly for a woman of my age to do so. It goes in line with Titus 2 which admonishes us women to be chaste and pure. If I parade in my pyjamas in public, I feel that I would be dishonouring the LORD. I don't want to harm my witness. I feel that publicly dressing down like this would harm it. Being modestly dressed will avoid being ashamed.

[To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:5

Behold, I come as a thief. Blessed [is] he that watcheth, and keepeth his garments, lest he walk naked, and they see his shame. revelations 16:15

I want to please the LORD in all I do, including how I dress. Man looks on the outside. God may know my heart, but man only has my appearance to go by. If I draw unflattering comments by appearing in pyjamas in the supermarket or wherever, I am hardly going to influence anyone to come to Christ.

In all things we are called to propriety, order and decency. Wearing our night attire publicly displays none of these virtues.

Let all things be done decently and in order. 1 Corinthians 14:40


© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Friday, 15 January 2016

PASSING ON THE BATON OF GODLY WOMANHOOD




When I was a young woman of 25 with 4 children under 5 years of age, I sometimes felt that my life was boring and that I could be doing something more valuable with my life than “just housekeeping” and looking after babies!

My girl-friends were still single or had no children, and their lives seemed far more interesting and exciting than mine. I had been married at 16 years of age, straight from the schoolroom to the nursery, and I felt old before my time. That restlessness of adolescence still hung over my life like a cloud that robbed me of my joy.

Now I did love my babies and I did like keeping house, but there was something missing from my life- a sense of joy and purpose. It was a difficult and unpleasant place to be in- and being there made me feel guilty because I felt I wasn’t a good mother by feeling like that.

My youngest baby turning 2 was a turning point in my own life, for my loved Aunt died of liver cancer at that time, and for the first time in my life, I seriously questioned God, eternity, sin and where I would be if I were to die. From this sad time, I turned to Jesus and acknowledged all my past mistakes, sin and miserable thoughts. I literally felt re-born!

I started going to church and was blessed by being discipled by some older lovely women. They shared with me the high calling of being a Christian wife, mother and homemaker, and as they shared with me, I observed their lives. They were fulfilled, productive and happy wives, mothers and homemakers. I came to see the role that God had called me in was the role which suited me best and is what I believed, and still believe, to be the choice role in life.

Almost immediately, my life took on new meaning and my family benefitted from this in my increased patience, diligence, nurturing and joyfulness. Not only was I born-again and a child of God, but I literally glowed in my new-found purpose in life. I fell in love with my children all over again and then gradually became a truly submissive wife.

Thirty-eight years later, I thank the women who lived as Titus 2 women, and taught me the value of marriage, motherhood and homemaking. By obeying God and living the Word, they have passed on the baton of godly womanhood and blessed me. My prayer is that older sisters in the LORD take the Word of God seriously and become zealous teachers of the younger women. Only through them obeying the Word can the younger sisters be taught His Ways, and become true blessings to their husbands and families.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2: 3-5

Saturday, 9 January 2016

WHEN A WOMAN IS ABUSED

As most of you know, I was a badly abused wife for 25 long years... when I found this post today, I cried.  It was as if the writer had seen inside my heart...

One can heal from spousal abuse if they are lucky enough to break free of it, but as well as physical scars, there are often emotional scars that never go away...

If you are an abused wife who is in danger, or your children are in danger, it is imperative that you get to safety somehow.  Unfortunately, many women die at the hands of a husband or partner....

There is terrible advice being given to abused Sisters today.... and in particular via Debi Pearl.

For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for [one] covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.  Malachi 2:16 Malachi 2:16 tells us that God hates divorce BUT He also hates the violence and treachery some use against their spouse, thus making the marriage an unsafe place to be....  here are those words in the post  by Joyful Mother.... 

(Statistics tell us that approximately one in three women are abused at some point in their life. That means that if you yourself are not abused then surely you know someone who is.)

If a Christian woman is abused by her husband, whether the abuse is emotional, physical, spiritual or sexual, it isn’t because
she didn’t submit enough,
she hasn’t tried hard enough,
she didn’t love him enough,
she didn’t spend enough time in prayer for her husband
and for their marriage,
that she didn’t study the Word
or didn’t believe the Word
or didn’t try to obey the Word with everything within her.

If she gets to the point where she is thinking about separating from her husband, or even divorcing him, after many hours of prayer and many hours of Bible study and more tears than you could ever even begin to imagine, it doesn’t necessarily follow that
she never loved him,
she is a feminist,
that she wants to be separated or divorced,
that she doesn’t believe in biblical womanhood,
that she didn’t long for a traditional marriage,
that she didn’t try hard enough to be a good wife,
that she isn’t a good Christian.

If you should happen to meet a woman who has been abused, you will probably think that she is
distant,
cold,
self-involved,
shy.

Most likely this is because she is
shattered,
broken,
alone
and confused.

If you have never walked in her steps, if you’ve never heard the words designed to destroy you coming from the mouth of the one who swore before God and others that he would love you forever, if you’ve never been, literally and physically backed into a corner with absolutely no way out, then you probably have absolutely no clue how
betrayed,
devastated,
shocked,
heart-broken
and hurt an abused woman feels.

If a woman has been beaten down, physically or emotionally, and she is brave enough to seek help,
go to her,
applaud her,
pray for her and with her,
and help her,
because, most likely, she has absolutely no idea what she is going to do next.

Her fear and confusion will be even more evident, more overwhelming, more devastating to her if she has children. Remember that and love her and love her children, also.
Comfort them,
pray for them,
listen to them,
do something kind for them,
let them know that someone cares
even if their daddy doesn’t.

Emotional abuse, physical abuse, spiritual abuse and sexual abuse of wives is real and far more common than most folks realize. It happens even in what others perceive to be “Christian” families. Even if the abuse is just aimed at the wife, the children will still be injured from the fallout. Frequently, though, it isn’t just fallout that hurts them; abusers of wives often go on to become abusers of children, too.

Often abuse doesn’t stop with just words even if that is where it starts. If a man will break his wife with his words, many times, he will manifest force against her somehow, someway, sometime. It just might bleed out to the children, also.Abuse isn’t the wife’s fault. It isn’t the children’s fault. No one deserves to be hurt like this.

If you know about a case of domestic abuse, consider that perhaps God has put you here with this family and has prepared you for such a time as this. If so, you have an obligation to
pray,
to love,
to be available to her as she tries to rebuild her life
and the lives of her children,
to listen
and listen again and again,
to cry with her,
to protect,
to defend,
to get her and her children to safety if need be
and to help her start over.

When it is over, when she has taken the step to protect her and her children that she never dreamed that she would ever have to take, remember that she doesn’t need condemnation, she needs assurance that she is accepted and safe with you and in her church.

Keep in mind that…
her dreams are gone, help her to dream new ones;
her life is shattered, help her to build it again;
her children need love and guidance, see yourself as part of their healing;
she herself needs a friend, be one
and always, always pray for her and for her children.......... end of quote  -by Joyful Mom... thank you!


Blessings, Glenys






Friday, 1 January 2016

BALANCING WORK AND PLAY!




It is said that all work and no play make Jack a dull boy. I believe that is true. As wives and mothers we can get so involved with taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves. We need to take time to smell the roses and we need to watch our children at play and learn to play again. Adulthood shouldn't be the end of play and laughter. The scriptures teach us that a merry heart makes a cheerful countenance but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken Proverbs 15:13  It is hard to be cheerful some days and certainly work overload can break one's spirit- if we let it.


I have found that a smile actually promotes a cheerful spirit and gets a positive response. So how does one create a cheerful enough spirit to raise a smile? I believe it is by a few things:



1) The Psalms and Ephesians tell us to develop an attitude of gratitude. Just thank God continually with songs of praise and thanks. Start to see beyond the nappies and try to catch a glimpse of the beauty of motherhood. There are many many women who would long to be mothers- that's a reason to be thankful.

2) Develop a plan to organise your home and life into manageable portions so as not to become overwhelmed. Don't procrastinate around the home but roll up your sleeves and get going and do it! Nothing robs us of joy like procrastination! And get your work done as quickly as you can and as well as you can in order to do the things you like to do- I love to surf the Net and write. Whatever it is that you enjoy, get your work out of the way and then enjoy yourself.

3) When you work- work hard! When you play- play hard! But don't play when you work and don't work when you play! Just get your work done and then have a ball! Just enjoy doing what you love to do and don't feel guilty- God doesn't make us feel guilty- we make ourselves feel guilty! We must remember we must live our lives in balance: relaxation and enjoyment are a part of that balance! Enjoyment of life is critical to giving the best of yourself to your husband, your children, and your friends. Of all the species on earth, we are just about the only ones to forget to play daily. Unless you take time to recharge your batteries, even your relationship with God will become stale!

4) Try to think of those things that are positive, praiseworthy, pure and think only of those things. Philippians 4:8 


Remember that all we have is today- don't worry about yesterday, do your best today, and leave tomorrow in God's Hands.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Finally,  brethren,  whatsoever things are true,  whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things Philippians 4:8


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