In this verse, servant hood is not saying that we must take on the role of doormat or navvy, but that we should be of support to any sister or brother in Christ who needs it. The object of servant hood is not necessarily rushing off to a foreign country as a missionary or selling all your worldly goods to feed the poor, whilst putting oneself on the poverty line.
Surprisingly, servant hood can and should start at home. Our first ministry is our marriage, our children and our home. We serve the LORD best by honouring our husband, loving our children and keeping a home that is fertile ground for raising little seedlings who will grow into mighty trees of Righteousness for the LORD.
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. 1 Timothy 5:14
This is your raison d'etre, or reason of being. If you are a wife and mother, then you are a home keeper to some extent or another. And your influence for Christ is being spoken of in great volumes. For home is a person's beginning, and there one shapes ones' marriage and rears one's children. It is no small and meaningless task.
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:4
When we have raised our children, our first ministry- our marriage still needs to be guarded. And often, in that time, your husband will release you to minister to others outside the home. Again, that can be ministering from home, sharing your life experiences as an older Christian woman as outlined in Titus 2. Or it can be in some outside form of ministry, as long as your husband and home are not being neglected.
The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; Titus 2:3
It seems clear that God wants us to first raise our children, then to reach out to others in ministry. Having a servant's heart is a necessary prerequisite for this important and challenging role. But the heart attitude should start and end at home. We have no place giving our best outside our home and letting our husband, children and home suffer neglect.
What is important in God's sight regarding the godly woman and her role in life? I believe a key is here.
Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man,Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work. 1 Timothy 5:9
The points close to God's heart are:
Home and hospitality
As a mother who has brought up 4 children plus a grandchild, I know that the days are too long, but the years too short. Yet it is in these years that the seeds of godliness are sprouted in your children- the future Body of Christ. Before you can blink an eye, your children will be grown. It is a fact that mothers of older children, and grandmothers can testify to.
How you choose to serve Christ will effect the future Body of Christ. We need to nurture warriors of faith with a servant heart. We need you young mothers to see the beauty of your calling and raise these children unto the glory of God. And it starts at home. It doesn't necessarily end there for you- but it must begin there.
Don't despair that your lot seems to be serving others in four walls that sometimes seem to close in on you. You are serving the LORD in the best possible way, and you are ensuring the continuation of the Christian faith.
We need you to do this with a servant's heart and diligence. It may mean being home more than you would like, but this will only be temporary. It should be easier when we reflect on God's view of our role and by knowing it is God's Will for women in this present season in your life.
© Glenys Robyn Hicks