Wednesday, 14 December 2016

FIFTY SHADES OF GREY: ONE SHADE OF WHITE


There has been a lot of publication of the trilogy "50 Shades of Grey".  It seems every woman is immersed in  it and most have bought all three books.  Even my daughter, who is not an avid reader, has it on her iPhone.

Everyone seems to be reading this trash. However, I won't be reading them.  What I have gleaned from comments and hearsay is that it is basically "Mummy porn"  A tale of  demeaning sex and sado-masochism.  But most of the young mothers I know are digesting every filthy word of it and jokes abound that by book three, most husbands will be very happy men with an excess of sexual favours in all kinds of manner!

Why won't I read it? you ask.  I won't read it because I value my God and my marriage too much, and  I have self-respect. As a married woman, I owe it to Chris to keep my thoughts and impulses for him alone.  I would hate to be intimate with him and be imagining Christian (or any other man).... Jesus Himself has warned us against this, saying that to look lustfully at someone not your spouse, is adultery in the heart.  He meant this for women as well...

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28

As in cyber sex, and sexy chat room relationships, reading porn stirs the carnal side and weakens the intimacy and trust in the marriage union and pervades into our relationship with Christ. Sadly, many Christian women are getting caught up in this sin. And it is not only the married but the single woman.  Goodness knows, remaining sexually pure and unstained in this world is hard enough without igniting flames that should not be kindled until marriage..

I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake [my] love, till he please. Songs 2:7

Anything that lures ones' mind away from God or ones' spouse creates an opportunity for sinful behaviour.  The formula for sin begins in one's thought life...A thought = a decision =  an action = sin.  I know if Chris was thinking lustfully about another woman, that it would upset me.  He wouldn't do it to me. Likewise, I won't do it to him.

Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. James 1:15 

As a born-again Christian who is redeemed and cleansed by the Blood of Christ, I have too much self-respect- or really, I should say respect of Christ living in me, that I refuse to dwell on sinful things. We are a holy people and have been called to be separate from the world.  

Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you,  2 Corninthians 6:17

I do not want to waste my energies on thinking about licentiousness. Being human means that occasionally one may have a sinful thought- we won't be perfect until we meet the LORD, but that doesn't mean that we should dwell on rubbish. I prefer to dwell on things of Christ.  However, should we dwell on things not worthy of our Saviour,  then we are instructed to train our thoughts away and bring them in line with God and His Word.

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;  2 Corinthians 10:5

It is my hope that any Sisters here will bypass these books and any other distractions that take us away from our most important raison d'etre.  Our life is to keep ourselves spiritually pure as we await our Saviour.   So many world events point to His coming soon. We have to stay strong.  In faith. In purity. In Spirit. In prayer.  For we are the Bride of Christ.

For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

Just as you hopefully would keep yourself pure for your husband, how much more so do we need to keep ourselves pure for Him?  We must guard our hearts carefully at all times,  for out of our heart, comes our life.  

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:24

Don't let the world tell you that reading "Mummy porn" is not sin: it is. Our standard for living is not the world's, but God's.   And before you take offence at my words, please know that I too must bring my thoughts into the captivity of Christ.  I don't feed my spirit on garbage. Therefore I won't read 50 Shades of grey or see the movie.

What manner of people ought we to be then?

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;  Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Be not ye therefore partakers with them. For ye were sometimes darkness, but now [are ye] light in the Lord: walk as children of light:  (For the fruit of the Spirit [is] in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)  Ephesians 5:3-9

As the Bride of  Christ, when the Bridegroom comes, I don't want Him to find me being wanton, licentious and lewd. I want to be holy and pure for Him.  He deserves that.  

There may be fifty shades of grey, but there is only one shade of white. I choose white!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Thou hast a few names even in Sardis which have not defiled their garments; and they shall walk with me in white: for they are worthy.  Revelation 3:4

39 comments:

  1. I am so grateful for your addressing this issue -- and it is an issue, not a book review, for we shall not be reading it, nor should we be discussing the book. We have a better book that includes stories of errors and redemption. We know there is a way of life that confirms mankind's purpose - and part of that purpose should reflect Daniel's decision: But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself (Daniel 1:8a KJV) To read this book is defiling.

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  2. Thank you thank you for this post! I also can't stand this trilogy. Fortunately I haven't seen or met very many women reading it. I wish more women would stand up for themselves and their divine worth and shun the filthiness of the world.
    I would love for you to link your post up at my blog this week. It's so uplifting!
    http://sandsfaith.blogspot.com/2012/07/sweet-simple-thursday-sast-link-up_26.html

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    1. Thanks, Jean. I linked it to your blog! :D Blessings!

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  3. Very awesome... thank you for posting this. It is wonderful to see someone taking a stand.
    God Bless You! :)

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  4. Beautifully said!! Thank you for taking a stand on this. I had no idea what these books were until I found out that a hotel had replaced the Bible with these books! I am appalled.

    It is so important to not set before our eyes anything that is impure and these books sound impure. So sad that our society is embracing this stuff.

    God bless you - Julie

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    1. Filth tantalises the carnal sinful side of mankind. Unfortunately, it will sell quite well....

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  5. Thanks for sharing this post.

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  6. From what I have heard, this book is VERY badly written (under normal circumstances wouldn't normally be published) - so besides the topic, the women who are reading these books are reading trash in the sense of shocking grammar and english. The other day in the newspaper there was some interesting facts - of those who have read book one, only 40% read book 2 and 30% read book 3, says something about the quality and level of intelligence's. As I have written, don't touch it - not suitable for anyone, let alone Christians.

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    1. Those facts are interesting but not surprising... as I said in another comment, filth sells.. and it doesn't matter if the grammar is bad either... most porn writers can't spell... just take a look at some restroom walls! LOL

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    2. Joluise wrote about the dangers of porn here: http://jo-stophaveachat.blogspot.com.au/2012/07/more-about-porn.html Take a look, her blog is good!

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  7. Right on, Sister! I haven't started reading any of them because of the reasons you've given. Thank you for clarifying and listing them so powerfully!

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    1. Thanks, Kathy. I believe with a passion that the Bride of Christ must not get her gown soiled in the world. The Bridegroom is coming soon.... Blessings!

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  8. Had heard the title but had no idea of content. Now I do. Thanks!

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    1. I hadn't heard of it until my daughter started raving about it... she knows how I feel about it, but you can't live their life for them, can you? :S thanks for sharing a cuppa with me.

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  9. I just heard on the news that in London some hotels have removed the Bible and put copies of shades of Grey instead as a 'perk' for their guests. :(

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    1. It's indicative of society's downward slide isn't it? so sad.

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  10. Glenys my friend...I have read several blogs addressing this book and the movie "Magic Mike" both of which I have not read or seen and have no desire to. I agree with you wholeheartedly and desire to protect both my heart and my marriage. Unfortunately, this book is not the only book out there being read that can tamper with the Christian heart. Even some Christian fiction can move the women's heart in this same way but more subtly. I pray Christian women will read your thoughts here and apply it to all books they chose to read and movies they desire to watch. Thank you for showing us what Scripture says and for sharing this at WJIM sweet friend.

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    1. We have to be so careful not to sully ourselves with smut... thanks for sharing a cuppa, Naomi! Blessings!

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  11. Unfortunately, we live in an age where people want their senses to be teased for enjoyment. Some people think that just having them reading is a good thing, but I disagree. Thank you for your strong stand and your willingness to state your opinion. Bless you!

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    1. I disagree as well, Linda... garbage in = garbage out. Not for the Child of God. Blessings!

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  12. I believer these books will be the downfall of many of our young mothers. It breaks my heart.

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  13. I have taken a similar stand. You've stated it well here. God bless you.

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  14. Thanks for linking up with NOBH. I must admit I was a little nervous as I read your title! I went out with some woman I used to work with a few weeks ago, and they all were reading the series. Not one was a Christian yet each said they either returned the books or threw them out! Interesting! Every blessing, Kelly

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    1. I think often people who are not born again still have a moral code that they adhere to. There are many who find porn offensive whether born again or not. These people, to my mind are not far from the Kingdom. Most places where one links up don't allow enough room to put the full title in... I can imagine a lot of people being nervous about Fifty Shades of Grey! :D Thanks for sharing a cuppa with me, Kelly!

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  15. A neighbor said she knows she is getting old because she is sitting at the beach and she is reading the newspaper while her 18 yr old daughter beside her is reading 50 Shades. oh my gosh!

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    1. Some people have no idea, do they? Blessings!

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  16. EXCELLENT (as always)!! We've been studying through Proverbs 1-10 in SS class and are in chapter 5 - about the 'strange woman' and her ways and the exortation for husbands (and wives) to rejoice in the wife of their youth and to be exhilarated at all times in their love.

    We spend so much time looking OUTSIDE our marriage for things to fulfill and satisfy us, that we lose the very thing God has given to us. And it is so sad how much the church has been deceived in this very worldly and distorted, even satanic, view.

    Thank you so much for sharing this on my link-up this week. VERY encouraging!!

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  17. So many good books to read and this one is on the bestseller list! :^(

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    1. Filth sells, unfortunately. There are many who enjoy cheap titillation from these kind of books. Not so for the godly women. Thanks for sharing a cuppa with me today!

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  18. Hello Glenys - I have linked this post of yours to my blog - I hope that is ok? Fabulously well written article and I agree whole heartedly - so much so that I have read your post to my eldest 3 BOYS aged 17, 15 and 14. We discussed it inside out and upside down and they were appalled at the content of the books. 'So the books are basically just porn in written form!' was the comment from my 15 year old. The 17 year old said 'How degrading and sick.' Thank you for posting content the reminds us to look toward Phil 4:8 and not get tangled up in the world's filth. and thank yo for providing good solid things I can share with my children. Many blessings to you ♥

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    1. Thank you for your kind comments and encouragement. I am glad that you were able to share with your sons. One of the saddest things about pornography is that it denigrates women to sexual objects to be used, not as precious and sensitive women to be cherished. It is sad too that some women by reading or viewing pornography, are actually shooting themselves in the foot. No wonder they lament that "a good man is hard to find!" Pornography really is a tool of the evil one to cheapen the beauty of sex as God ordained it! Blessings to you and you sons, who I feel will become men who cherish their spouse.

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