Monday, 30 April 2012


Flirting is always dangerous for unmarried people trying to stay pure, to engage in, but for married couples, it is often an enticement to commit adultery. Never before has it been easier than with the internet!

Online chat groups and mixed gender pool rooms etc promote not only flirting, but immorality. Two of our family members have been divorced because of online chat room romances. They were left by their errant spouses because their spouses had found someone else online. It is a sad state of affairs! Literally!

Online or cyber sex is *sex*... it is just as damaging as real life sex to the emotional and trusting side of marriage and is sin! For this reason, Chris and I never go into online chat lines or strike up cyber friendships with the opposite sex. We are aware of the dangers! But a lot of people aren’t apparently. They become attached to someone online and sometimes this can lead to a rendezvous or an affair and sometimes, as in our family, sometimes a divorce.

Often when an online friendship is struck up, it starts off innocently enough, but can often escalate. Especially once flirting and innuendo takes over. Which is often. So, because we value and protect our marriage, we never go online and chat, except to our family.

Flirtatious behaviour is sinful, especially when done trying to entice someone else's husband! It is not proper behaviour for a Christian. We are wise to avoid chat rooms, messaging etc and any other behaviour that entices someone to sin and/or lust over someones’ marriage partner.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28

Friday, 27 April 2012


Living a satisfying and fruitful Christian life as an older woman is important. In applying godly principles and priorities to our life, we can avoid the pitfalls of succumbing to depression during the years of empty nesting. With the benefit of life experience and years of walking with Christ, we can be a blessing to those closest round us even in later life.

I love to encourage Christian women in their most precious calling. Although I now have passed the season of childbearing and child raising, I still find that my life can influence my adult children and their children. Being a mother and a godly woman never stops! In sharing my heart as an older Sister in Christ in the spirit of Titus 2 and Proverbs 31, I feel that I am still living my life out in a scripturally pleasing way and in keeping with godly priorities.

It is important that the older Christian woman encourages and teaches her younger sisters (and that includes her daughters and granddaughters) It is my prayer that younger women will catch the beauty and freedom we have in Christ by accepting that marriage, children and home are our first and most precious calling and ministry. I pray too that if you are an older sister like myself, that you will rise up and bless younger women too!

By living life according to godly priorities and principles, the aging Christian woman can find satisfaction and joy and be a blessing to those closest to her, even after her children have left the nest, for now is the time for outside ministry. God never wants us to feel unfulfilled and empty-He wants us to pass on the baton of godly womanhood.

God's ways are good: they are always good!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

"The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children," Titus 2:4-5

Thursday, 26 April 2012


When my twin sister and I were in first grade at school,  every morning we had Show and Tell... As you may recall, my father was an alcoholic and we saw many violent outbursts...

One particular Monday morning we announced in front of the whole class that our Daddy was drunk and threw Mummy's new Mixmaster bowl off the table, breaking it.  We were standing there together holding hands as we always did,  sure that this bit of horrifying gossip would be News du Jour!  There was always competition in the class for the most interesting Show and Tell...

We were very perplexed and quite scared when we had to take a note home from the teacher, Mrs Jenner.. She wanted to see Mum as soon as possible... was it something we said??

Mum duly went to see our teacher, and when we came home, we were given a rough toweling down and told that we weren't to tell in class what we saw happen at home. In fact, we weren't to tell anyone anything about our home life!  We were aghast and ashamed! And a little confused.

Apparently, there were things you didn't talk about and Dad breaking the Mixmaster bowl and being drunk was one of them.  At 6 there were a lot of things we had to learn.  And it was difficult. Really, when violence and drunkenness were a big part of our childhood, it was just another event that to us was normal in our abusive home...

What goes on in a home IS News du Jour for a child.  Let us hope what they see going on in yours does not bring embarrassment and shame on you like it did to my mother.... and if it does, remember that children who see it often, become desensitised and treat it as normal even if undesirable. If they talk about, don't blame them.

Make sure your children only see good things as their normality, if not, who knows what your children will be telling- and to whom?

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Friday, 20 April 2012

My grab button is fixed and other news du jour

Morning Cuppas With Glenys

You may remember me telling you that my daughter is ill.   She is still unwell and in pain but is off the morphine. She is looking forward to surgery in June when her health insurance will cover her.  

I was staying at her house and doing housework, minding her children and tending to her the past two weeks, plus last week Chris and I took our granddaughter to Melbourne for some dental work. As a result, I have a fibromyalgia flare. I am aching severely and am suffering from chronic fatigue and brain fog. .

It is a real effort to attend to my house and I have been following the Lists and just trying to keep my wheels turning a bit. As a Sacrificial HomeKeeper, I have already sat down with my family and decluttered according to the lists, but even so, I find it difficult not to feel frustrated....

As a mother and grandmother, I know that my children and grandchildren will need me as illness and trials come to them.  I do not hide from them, but try to pace myself and not use up all my spoons or energy. Unfortunately, often it is impossible to not overdo ones' energy and before too long, my body literally collapses.

That is the case this last few days. I am exhausted. I will be keeping up the blog and sharing tea with you, but it will be from my bed.... I am sure you won't mind!  

We all thank you for your prayers for my girl and for asking after her....  and thank you to those who let me know my grab button wasn't working...


Bless the LORD, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits: Who forgives all your iniquities, Who heals all your diseases,  Psalm 103:2-3

The Fundamental Top

Wednesday, 11 April 2012


A sick man turned to his doctor as he was preparing to leave the examination room and said, 'Doctor, I am afraid to die. Tell me what lies on the other side..' Very quietly, the doctor said, 'I don't know..''You don't know? You're, a Christian man, and don't know what's on the other side?'

The doctor was holding the handle of the door; on the other side came a sound of scratching and whining, and as he opened the door, a dog sprang into the room and leaped on him with an eager show of gladness.

Turning to the patient, the doctor said, 'Did you notice my dog? He's never been in this room before. He didn't know what was inside.. He knew nothing except that his master was here,and when the door opened, he sprang in without fear.  I know little of what is on the other side of death, but I do know one thing... I know my Master is there and that is enough.'

I know that is how I faced the fear of death with my heart problems and misdiagnosis of a terminal illness.. I reasoned that as long as Christ was there, that was all that mattered!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:John 25:11

Tuesday, 3 April 2012

The fairy godmother's not coming!

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a fairy godmother who waved her magic wand and transformed our homes into pristine havens that required no upkeep from us? Then we could do that which we really loved to do without feeling at all guilty. Some of us tend to live our lives sipping coffee amidst dirty laundry and dust and mess, as if we are expecting her arrival anytime- ready to bail us out of our mess at the flick of a wrist. The family is unhappy with us and we are overwhelmed with chores that have banked up. And there is more bad news- the fairy godmother’s not coming! Well, she might if we are able to afford a maid, but for the majority of us, a maid is a luxury we can’t afford. We are IT!

Over the years, I have found that I have procrastinated about housework so much that I have spent more time planning how to simplify it, organise it and pardon the pun- sanitise it, than if I had just rolled up my sleeves and got on with it. It would have been done sooner and I would have been able to enjoy my leisure time more than I did with my parrot on the shoulder telling me that the work still hadn’t been done! Wisdom through life experience and hindsight has taught me to do that which I don’t enjoy first then relax. It is almost impossible to relax when you have chores that are calling out your name!

God has called us to be domestic- to be the keepers of our home. Whilst it is important that we don’t eat the bread of idleness, I don’t think that He intends us to have no other pursuits in life other than housework. There has to be a balance. The woman who alphabetises her spices and has cupboards that are washed out every week is as unbalanced as the woman who can’t find a clean shirt for her husband or a clean cup to drink from.

I believe the Christian woman has to ensure that her home is clean, her family’s clothes are washed and ironed and that meals are on time and nutritious. She doesn’t have to fret that her home is not like Home Beautiful- but her home should be welcoming to her friends and nurturing to her family. That’s what Home is all about.

If the home is reasonably clean and her husband is contented and her children happy, then I feel that is all that is required of her. It takes effort, discipline and diligence to see that these things are attended to, and it is the wife’s task, for she is Keeper of The Home.

The Christian wife sets the temper of the home and it is her godly responsibility to be domestic. It is her calling and hers alone- she must look after her home with or without help and sick or not, for unfortunately, the fairy godmother’s not coming!

“He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much.” Luke 16:10

Sunday, 1 April 2012


Teenagers have a hard time of life to get through. It's a time when they are looking to belong and where peer pressure is rife. It is a place fraught with danger..

This week I heard of something happening here that highlighted some of the pressures our young ones live under. Two friends were on their  way to school yesterday when they were approached by some other students who attend the same school with them.  They were at the station and unbeknown to them, a teacher whose car had broken down had taken the train and was watching them.

One 13 year old girl pulled out two bottles of  an alcoholic drink and offered them around. Appalled, the girls  mentioned refused to drink any and they told them they were fools. They also added that they didn't know how the alcohol would effect them.

The girls with the alcohol  knew the teacher was watching, but because they weren't on school property they (rightly) decided that he couldn't do much and very cockily drank the lot. By the time they got to school, those girls were drunk and vomiting.

Once at school, the teacher reported the incident to the principal.  One young girl who had persuaded them not to drink was asked to verify what the teacher was stating, which she did.  She was commended for  not joining them, and for trying to persuade them not to drink. The other girls were suspended from school for a week and their parents were notified as well of course..

Some points that I have been considering were the brazen attitudes of the girl who brought the alcohol from home, and her friends who drank with a total disregard for authority.  I wonder if her parents knew that she drank and even if she had been raiding their stash of Cruisers. I guess they know now.  I wonder if they care.

I wonder about the girls who knew they were doing the wrong thing by drinking alcohol in a public place and under age. Apparently they were hiding as they drank... have they been set a good example at home? and what is their relationship like with their parents?  and what of their self-image?  

Did they drink knowing they would get in trouble, as even Eve did as she ate the apple and then passed it on to Adam?- did the pressure to be popular and belong overtake the prospect of suspension?

Will these precocious girls  reflect on their bad behaviour in the week they are suspended from school or will this simply be a spring board to darker things such as drug taking?  -or will they be so hungover that they won't give a care?

I wonder that they drank knowing that parents will be notified or did they know that their parents would take no action?   I know that my daughters would be horrified if their child had drank with her friends and perhaps this was a big factor in the other girl being brave enough to resist. Whatever, it was still brave of her...

Undoubtedly, the ability to resist peer pressure comes from a good home environment and positive parenting..  God willing, this fortitude of character and healthy self-image will protect the upright girl and her young friend from succumbing to the peer pressure that can lead teens into drug taking and sexual experimentation at a very tender age.

I am grateful to all my daughters for being excellent mothers to my grandchildren.... but  in this day of instant communication and travel, they can't be sure where their children are or with whom. So I will be praying to  God Who answers a mothers' and grandmothers' prayers and looks after her children and grandchildren where only He can see.

I know that  He will keep my own grandchildren safe and free from peer pressure in this world where growing up is much more complicated than in our day- a world fraught with danger for our young....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;  Ephesians 6:18

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