Tuesday, 26 June 2012

Top 10 things NOT to say to someone with a chronic illness

We who suffer often invisibly every day are particularly sensitive to not only pain, but words.  An insensitive word can literally make us break down under the strain of trying to keep it all together.  We often are depressed and suffer from false guilt.

Not only do we cling to the LORD, but we cling to any encouragement anyone can give us... so please make an effort to see through our eyes and understand our illness...

Please make sure you think before you speak and make sure you try to understand our physical and emotional pain.  An encouraging word or some compassion will help us cope when we feel we can't face another day!


She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness. Proverbs 31:26

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Monday, 25 June 2012

Sacrificial HomeKeepers again?

There are a great deal of chronically ill Christian home keepers who come across this blog and I feel their distress quite keenly, as I am a sufferer of much pain and illness myself.

I used to have a blog called Sacrificial HomeKeeper which I have been considering starting up again. It is presently private. Would anyone reading this blog possibly be interested in a blog for chronically ill women? Please comment so that I can get an idea of interest.... thanks and blessings! 

PS: Well I have made a decision: I will not be starting the blog up again but I will be posting more on chronic illness for all the sacrificial home keepers here. I am too tired to maintain another blog...


So teach [us] to number our days, that we may apply [our] hearts unto wisdom.  Psalm 90:12

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Sunday, 17 June 2012

Quenching darts and battle weary!

Recently I have been battling in many areas...my fibromyalgia and polymyalgia rheumatica have flared causing   chronic pain and chronic fatigue. I have had a reaction to a flu vaccination which has given me a bad cold and chesty cough and caused my heart to pain me in angina attacks. And I have been quenching darts and am battle weary!

Lately I have been posting a lot on feminism's evils and as a result I have been receiving some very nasty comments... so nasty that I have had to delete them.  Now you who know me well, know that I post most comments and try to answer them as honestly and respectfully as I can, but there is nothing quite so vicious as a feminist who is on a crusade for her cause.  I honestly have never heard such vitriole and the personal attacks have been written to wound me.

There is also a blog dedicated to bringing down Fundamentalist Christian women's blogs. I must be rattling some chains, because I have become their "most favourite fundie" and have been called "the mother-in-law from hell" and am now level pegging with another blogger, Lori Alexander of Always Learning... being likened to "Lori's Australian sister" Apparently, I am " always bringing in the crazy!" (Lori's blog is good by the way, so have a read!)

Because I was already down and out with my health and close to the Pit of Despair, I decided after Chris took charge and demanded I close my blog (in order to protect me, I might add), that I would stop blogging. In fact, you may have read the now deleted posts advising that I had stopped blogging.  First I tried to avoid receiving comments, then in desperation, I deleted my blog completely.

I felt so empty after deleting my blog. Then I started to feel righteous indignation. I felt the LORD calling me to undelete my blog and to keep writing. So I talked it over with Chris and he suggested I just delete the offensive comments and not take it to heart. (easier said than done)

So, I prayed and the LORD brought to mind these verses: For this [is] thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully. For what glory [is it], if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer [for it], ye take it patiently, this [is] acceptable with God. For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: 

I feel a bit guilty that I was found weak at the time of this testing, but I have repented and have tried to put that which was wrong, right.  Hence the post this morning.... I don't know if I will have many readers after deleting my blog and so on, but that is in God's hands, not mine.  All I know is that I felt empty without sharing tea with you and have answered the call.  So I am quenching darts, battle-weary but obedient... and starting to see my fundie crazy woman status as getting through to a lot of lost women...and isn't that what I started blogging for anyway?   Blessings to you all, 

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Thursday, 7 June 2012

You can still be a Proverbs 31 woman!

I know that we women who suffer from chronic illness and pain often fret because we want with all our hearts to be like the Proverbs 31 woman. Yet no matter how hard we try, we feel we cannot be like her. We then either give up completely, or sink into a deep depression… Sometimes we are far too hard on ourselves, even demanding more of ourselves than God does. After all, He understands us- He knows our frame and remembers we are but dust.

Another thing that we tend to do is to take man’s standard of being a good wife, mother and homemaker and we, on finding we cannot keep up with our healthier Sisters, wilt under the strain. This is a shame because Jesus says to come to Him all who are weary and He will give us rest. His yoke is light. But the perfectionism of man isn’t. Wouldn’t it be sad for us to constantly feel false guilt because we can’t keep up our homes like Martha Stewart? But here is some good news: we may very well find out after looking into the scriptures that we are closer to being a Proverbs 31 woman than we think….

Firstly, we must remember that the Word of God is the first and last authority in our lives. What exactly does God say about the godly woman? In Proverbs 31:10-31 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies… Is your heart yearning to be a virtuous woman? Are you seeking to serve God despite your pain? If you are, then your price is far above rubies!

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil Do you seek to be a blessing to your husband? Can he trust you with his heart, his dreams and fears, raising his children and keeping his home to the best of your ability? Then your husband will be blessed for you already have his trust. That too is a truly precious thing!

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life… Do you try to be a help meet for him? Are you consistently thinking the best of him, serving him in love and trying to be as unselfish as you can be, even in your worst times of illness or pain? If so, you are emulating that seemingly elusive Proverbs 31 woman!

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands… When you are feeling reasonably well, do you try to do something creative that will benefit your family? Do you work willingly even though it hurts? Willingness is a matter of heart, not productivity. If you work willingly no matter how small the job, you have the spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman!

She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar... This one can be a toughie, especially with illness at its height. But I also believe that the ill woman who seeks out coupons and directs those who are able to help with the purchasing of groceries to shop at the cheapest but best for money supermarkets, is living this verse to the best of her ability. She is like the merchant’s ships- charting their course from her bed or buying her food online!

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens… Again, a seeming impossibility for the chronically ill woman. But again the spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman is seen in not in the early rising per se but in the planning of the godly woman as she directs her helpers in conducting the running of the home. She or someone else must have a plan of action and I take that as giving meat and portions to her maidens.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard… There is nothing to stop an ill woman having a say in business matters or running a home business from her sick bed if at all possible. She may not be able to plant a vineyard with her own hands but the spirit of this wonderful woman of God can be seen in the planning, thought and effort in being business savvy, and this is her toil. She is still emulating her!

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms… This is a tough one for those of us with chronic illness and pain. But again I see us being that woman of God in taking care of our bodies, managing our illness, seeking knowledge from medical professionals or naturopaths and making sure we do precisely what we are told to do. That includes getting rest and trying to cast our cares on the LORD so as to strengthen ourselves!

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night... As we survey our efforts in managing our home and family, we will see that we have done well- for it is so much harder than for those of able body. We need our rest but our candle not going out at night means that we are diligent in the overseeing of our home and our eyes are ever vigilant to see just what goes on around us- even when we are taking our rest!

She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff…Whenever possible, we seek to be as diligent as possible keeping watch over our household, our children and our husband. We work as much as is humanly possible but we do not fret if we cannot honestly cope with work at any particular time. Again, I see this as a matter of heart. … The godly woman who suffers from chronic illness and pain but who seeks to serve the LORD despite her pain- is more like the Proverbs 31 woman than she could ever imagine….

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy... Kindness and compassion is a matter of heart and the heart of the giver is one of compassion. I see no reason why the chronically ill woman cannot extend her hands to the needy in special offerings or acts of kindness.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet...Again, the chronically ill woman can take comfort in knowing her family is well clothed. It is relatively easy to shop by catalogue or online through ebay. Planning and diligence in being observant to your family’s needs and sizes will pay off in knowing that they are warm and well-presented.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple…Again, this making of tapestries etc would depend on how severe the sufferer’s illness and pain was, but I feel that the essence of this verse is that we can still take a pride in our appearance in spite of our illness. I know sometimes this can be one of the last things on our minds, but I think it is important to ourselves and our husbands to try to keep tidy.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land…A husband who is well-loved will usually be willing to learn how to iron his shirt in times of his wife’s illness’s flare. If not, there are laundries that press shirts. A husband of a godly woman will never be known for an untidy and unkempt appearance. It is just harder for us as we have to be super diligent. If we can’t help our men retain honour by being well-presented, we should seek out helpers who will either volunteer or help for a small fee.

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant… Again, this is often difficult for the ill woman to achieve but I believe the spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman is shown in the extra planning and eye for detail in watching over her family and household. As we know, everything is more difficult and the ill woman will be ever seeking to cut corners in order to have her home run well.

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come...The chronically ill woman works harder than most for she starts her day at a disadvantage- usually lack of sleep due to pain. She has medications to take that can have disastrous side-effects such as making her sleep when she needs to be awake or nausea. But she works diligently as best she can to keep the home fires burning and the family happy. She is often the most selfless of women! She will be able to take pleasure in times to come, knowing that she did her best before God, to be His woman! She is a woman who should be honoured above all others, in life and in the one to come!

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness...I believe the godly chronically ill woman who reads the Word and keeps close to the LORD will open her mouth with wisdom, she will speak with kindness despite feeling unwell, for the LORD Himself will strengthen her spiritually.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness... Even though the chronically ill Christian woman may be bedridden, she can still look well to the ways of her household. By being attentive and delegating responsibilities wherever possible, she will never eat the bread of idleness. Being bedridden does not necessarily mean that one is idle. Indeed, running a home from your sick bed is a feat that surpasses the strength and vigilance of healthier stronger women!

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her… As children grow and your husband sees your efforts and realises the sacrifices that you have made- and the extra pain it has caused to ensure their upbringing is well done and that they are all comfortable and well looked after, they will bless and praise you. You are such a blessing to them!

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all, favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD she shall be praised.… Indeed, many women will have done virtuously, but you have put it in harder than most- you surely you do excel them all! When many would just crumble, you have kept striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates...You see, you will have the fruit of hands and your own works will praise you in the gates- because despite all obstacles, you have run the race and won- for you really *are* a Proverbs 31 woman!


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Tuesday, 8 May 2012

Taking my medicine with gladness

There was a time when I fought taking medicines. It was at a time when the sermons were about what you say is what you get. Claiming your healing in Jesus' Name and getting healed: if you didn't, you lacked the faith to make it so. I now believe that this is unbalanced teaching and do not follow it. However, at the time it made me feel very guilty about taking my medicine.

I do believe that God heals today. And I do believe that faith can make you well. But I have lived long enough with chronic illness to know that this doesn't happen all the time and that most times our prayer should be "if it is Thy will, please heal me!" Faith teachings often miss the fact that God is God! His Will may not be an immediate healing...I don't know why: I just know that I must accept my health as being in His Will. To struggle against this is to make yourself worse through faulty and negative thinking. We are called to walk in faith, not by sight.

In those years, I felt extremely guilty because I suffered from depression that was caused by a chemical imbalance. I tried many times to come off my tablets, usually after a healing crusade, and I fell- straight into the Pit of Despair. This fall often required more medication than before to get me to the place of health I was in when I thought I had been healed. And it took many many weeks of feeling awful before they kicked in again. Not a good place to be.

As I grew in my faith and relinquished my health to the LORD, I acquired many more medications. All of them are vitally important to keep my heart functioning, my blood pressure normal, my cholesterol down, to prevent my kidneys from making kidney stones and to regulate my underactive thryoid. Not to mention other things to keep my eyes from drying out and to minimise the pain of fibromyalgia and back problems and to reduce the gastric acid that some medications cause. And of course, the anti-depressants to normalise my neuro-transmitters.

Once I would have held these tablets in my hand and fought taking them. Not any more. I now adopt a spirit of gratitude as I take my medications, for without them I would not be alive for very long. I feel that my medications are a gift from God to allow me to love and serve Him a little longer here and now. Life is after all, God's Will and I am grateful for each new day.

I believe that God gave man the ability to make medications and that ensuring a better quality of life is in God's Will. For Christ came to give us abundant life. Laying in a sick bed with angina and pain is not an abundant life.

I would urge you to have a rethink about your medicines if you have been told that they aren't in God's Will for you. Try to adopt a glad and grateful attitude as you take them. Rejoice that you live in a place in the world where they are available and be glad. Joy and life are in the Will of God, or else why would we see Christ healing many ill and afflicted people? He told us He came to do the Will of His Father!

May you be well, no matter what it takes and may we bless the LORD together for His goodness to us!


How God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power: who went about doing good, and healing all that were oppressed of the devil; for God was with him. Acts 10:38

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Monday, 30 April 2012


Flirting is always dangerous for unmarried people trying to stay pure, to engage in, but for married couples, it is often an enticement to commit adultery. Never before has it been easier than with the internet!

Online chat groups and mixed gender pool rooms etc promote not only flirting, but immorality. Two of our family members have been divorced because of online chat room romances. They were left by their errant spouses because their spouses had found someone else online. It is a sad state of affairs! Literally!

Online or cyber sex is *sex*... it is just as damaging as real life sex to the emotional and trusting side of marriage and is sin! For this reason, Chris and I never go into online chat lines or strike up cyber friendships with the opposite sex. We are aware of the dangers! But a lot of people aren’t apparently. They become attached to someone online and sometimes this can lead to a rendezvous or an affair and sometimes, as in our family, sometimes a divorce.

Often when an online friendship is struck up, it starts off innocently enough, but can often escalate. Especially once flirting and innuendo takes over. Which is often. So, because we value and protect our marriage, we never go online and chat, except to our family.

Flirtatious behaviour is sinful, especially when done trying to entice someone else's husband! It is not proper behaviour for a Christian. We are wise to avoid chat rooms, messaging etc and any other behaviour that entices someone to sin and/or lust over someones’ marriage partner.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28

Friday, 27 April 2012


Living a satisfying and fruitful Christian life as an older woman is important. In applying godly principles and priorities to our life, we can avoid the pitfalls of succumbing to depression during the years of empty nesting. With the benefit of life experience and years of walking with Christ, we can be a blessing to those closest round us even in later life.

I love to encourage Christian women in their most precious calling. Although I now have passed the season of childbearing and child raising, I still find that my life can influence my adult children and their children. Being a mother and a godly woman never stops! In sharing my heart as an older Sister in Christ in the spirit of Titus 2 and Proverbs 31, I feel that I am still living my life out in a scripturally pleasing way and in keeping with godly priorities.

It is important that the older Christian woman encourages and teaches her younger sisters (and that includes her daughters and granddaughters) It is my prayer that younger women will catch the beauty and freedom we have in Christ by accepting that marriage, children and home are our first and most precious calling and ministry. I pray too that if you are an older sister like myself, that you will rise up and bless younger women too!

By living life according to godly priorities and principles, the aging Christian woman can find satisfaction and joy and be a blessing to those closest to her, even after her children have left the nest, for now is the time for outside ministry. God never wants us to feel unfulfilled and empty-He wants us to pass on the baton of godly womanhood.

God's ways are good: they are always good!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

"The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children," Titus 2:4-5

Thursday, 26 April 2012


When my twin sister and I were in first grade at school,  every morning we had Show and Tell... As you may recall, my father was an alcoholic and we saw many violent outbursts...

One particular Monday morning we announced in front of the whole class that our Daddy was drunk and threw Mummy's new Mixmaster bowl off the table, breaking it.  We were standing there together holding hands as we always did,  sure that this bit of horrifying gossip would be News du Jour!  There was always competition in the class for the most interesting Show and Tell...

We were very perplexed and quite scared when we had to take a note home from the teacher, Mrs Jenner.. She wanted to see Mum as soon as possible... was it something we said??

Mum duly went to see our teacher, and when we came home, we were given a rough toweling down and told that we weren't to tell in class what we saw happen at home. In fact, we weren't to tell anyone anything about our home life!  We were aghast and ashamed! And a little confused.

Apparently, there were things you didn't talk about and Dad breaking the Mixmaster bowl and being drunk was one of them.  At 6 there were a lot of things we had to learn.  And it was difficult. Really, when violence and drunkenness were a big part of our childhood, it was just another event that to us was normal in our abusive home...

What goes on in a home IS News du Jour for a child.  Let us hope what they see going on in yours does not bring embarrassment and shame on you like it did to my mother.... and if it does, remember that children who see it often, become desensitised and treat it as normal even if undesirable. If they talk about, don't blame them.

Make sure your children only see good things as their normality, if not, who knows what your children will be telling- and to whom?

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Friday, 20 April 2012

My grab button is fixed and other news du jour

Morning Cuppas With Glenys

You may remember me telling you that my daughter is ill.   She is still unwell and in pain but is off the morphine. She is looking forward to surgery in June when her health insurance will cover her.  

I was staying at her house and doing housework, minding her children and tending to her the past two weeks, plus last week Chris and I took our granddaughter to Melbourne for some dental work. As a result, I have a fibromyalgia flare. I am aching severely and am suffering from chronic fatigue and brain fog. .

It is a real effort to attend to my house and I have been following the Lists and just trying to keep my wheels turning a bit. As a Sacrificial HomeKeeper, I have already sat down with my family and decluttered according to the lists, but even so, I find it difficult not to feel frustrated....

As a mother and grandmother, I know that my children and grandchildren will need me as illness and trials come to them.  I do not hide from them, but try to pace myself and not use up all my spoons or energy. Unfortunately, often it is impossible to not overdo ones' energy and before too long, my body literally collapses.

That is the case this last few days. I am exhausted. I will be keeping up the blog and sharing tea with you, but it will be from my bed.... I am sure you won't mind!  

We all thank you for your prayers for my girl and for asking after her....  and thank you to those who let me know my grab button wasn't working...


Bless the LORD, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits: Who forgives all your iniquities, Who heals all your diseases,  Psalm 103:2-3

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Wednesday, 11 April 2012


A sick man turned to his doctor as he was preparing to leave the examination room and said, 'Doctor, I am afraid to die. Tell me what lies on the other side..' Very quietly, the doctor said, 'I don't know..''You don't know? You're, a Christian man, and don't know what's on the other side?'

The doctor was holding the handle of the door; on the other side came a sound of scratching and whining, and as he opened the door, a dog sprang into the room and leaped on him with an eager show of gladness.

Turning to the patient, the doctor said, 'Did you notice my dog? He's never been in this room before. He didn't know what was inside.. He knew nothing except that his master was here,and when the door opened, he sprang in without fear.  I know little of what is on the other side of death, but I do know one thing... I know my Master is there and that is enough.'

I know that is how I faced the fear of death with my heart problems and misdiagnosis of a terminal illness.. I reasoned that as long as Christ was there, that was all that mattered!

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:John 25:11

Tuesday, 3 April 2012

The fairy godmother's not coming!

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a fairy godmother who waved her magic wand and transformed our homes into pristine havens that required no upkeep from us? Then we could do that which we really loved to do without feeling at all guilty. Some of us tend to live our lives sipping coffee amidst dirty laundry and dust and mess, as if we are expecting her arrival anytime- ready to bail us out of our mess at the flick of a wrist. The family is unhappy with us and we are overwhelmed with chores that have banked up. And there is more bad news- the fairy godmother’s not coming! Well, she might if we are able to afford a maid, but for the majority of us, a maid is a luxury we can’t afford. We are IT!

Over the years, I have found that I have procrastinated about housework so much that I have spent more time planning how to simplify it, organise it and pardon the pun- sanitise it, than if I had just rolled up my sleeves and got on with it. It would have been done sooner and I would have been able to enjoy my leisure time more than I did with my parrot on the shoulder telling me that the work still hadn’t been done! Wisdom through life experience and hindsight has taught me to do that which I don’t enjoy first then relax. It is almost impossible to relax when you have chores that are calling out your name!

God has called us to be domestic- to be the keepers of our home. Whilst it is important that we don’t eat the bread of idleness, I don’t think that He intends us to have no other pursuits in life other than housework. There has to be a balance. The woman who alphabetises her spices and has cupboards that are washed out every week is as unbalanced as the woman who can’t find a clean shirt for her husband or a clean cup to drink from.

I believe the Christian woman has to ensure that her home is clean, her family’s clothes are washed and ironed and that meals are on time and nutritious. She doesn’t have to fret that her home is not like Home Beautiful- but her home should be welcoming to her friends and nurturing to her family. That’s what Home is all about.

If the home is reasonably clean and her husband is contented and her children happy, then I feel that is all that is required of her. It takes effort, discipline and diligence to see that these things are attended to, and it is the wife’s task, for she is Keeper of The Home.

The Christian wife sets the temper of the home and it is her godly responsibility to be domestic. It is her calling and hers alone- she must look after her home with or without help and sick or not, for unfortunately, the fairy godmother’s not coming!

“He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much.” Luke 16:10

Sunday, 1 April 2012


Teenagers have a hard time of life to get through. It's a time when they are looking to belong and where peer pressure is rife. It is a place fraught with danger..

This week I heard of something happening here that highlighted some of the pressures our young ones live under. Two friends were on their  way to school yesterday when they were approached by some other students who attend the same school with them.  They were at the station and unbeknown to them, a teacher whose car had broken down had taken the train and was watching them.

One 13 year old girl pulled out two bottles of  an alcoholic drink and offered them around. Appalled, the girls  mentioned refused to drink any and they told them they were fools. They also added that they didn't know how the alcohol would effect them.

The girls with the alcohol  knew the teacher was watching, but because they weren't on school property they (rightly) decided that he couldn't do much and very cockily drank the lot. By the time they got to school, those girls were drunk and vomiting.

Once at school, the teacher reported the incident to the principal.  One young girl who had persuaded them not to drink was asked to verify what the teacher was stating, which she did.  She was commended for  not joining them, and for trying to persuade them not to drink. The other girls were suspended from school for a week and their parents were notified as well of course..

Some points that I have been considering were the brazen attitudes of the girl who brought the alcohol from home, and her friends who drank with a total disregard for authority.  I wonder if her parents knew that she drank and even if she had been raiding their stash of Cruisers. I guess they know now.  I wonder if they care.

I wonder about the girls who knew they were doing the wrong thing by drinking alcohol in a public place and under age. Apparently they were hiding as they drank... have they been set a good example at home? and what is their relationship like with their parents?  and what of their self-image?  

Did they drink knowing they would get in trouble, as even Eve did as she ate the apple and then passed it on to Adam?- did the pressure to be popular and belong overtake the prospect of suspension?

Will these precocious girls  reflect on their bad behaviour in the week they are suspended from school or will this simply be a spring board to darker things such as drug taking?  -or will they be so hungover that they won't give a care?

I wonder that they drank knowing that parents will be notified or did they know that their parents would take no action?   I know that my daughters would be horrified if their child had drank with her friends and perhaps this was a big factor in the other girl being brave enough to resist. Whatever, it was still brave of her...

Undoubtedly, the ability to resist peer pressure comes from a good home environment and positive parenting..  God willing, this fortitude of character and healthy self-image will protect the upright girl and her young friend from succumbing to the peer pressure that can lead teens into drug taking and sexual experimentation at a very tender age.

I am grateful to all my daughters for being excellent mothers to my grandchildren.... but  in this day of instant communication and travel, they can't be sure where their children are or with whom. So I will be praying to  God Who answers a mothers' and grandmothers' prayers and looks after her children and grandchildren where only He can see.

I know that  He will keep my own grandchildren safe and free from peer pressure in this world where growing up is much more complicated than in our day- a world fraught with danger for our young....

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;  Ephesians 6:18

Saturday, 31 March 2012

Resting in God's promises

When we are constantly bombarded with health problems and in constant pain, it is very easy to fall into the self-pity trap. We feel nobody understands us or that nobody cares and we can't live as we want. This makes us feel overwhelmed and we go down straight into the Pit of Despair.

Anyone who suffers chronic pain knows that the Pit of Despair is a real place that seeks to keep its guests captive. It is a very hard place to be in and a hard place to leave.

Once we have arrived at the Pit of Despair, we find that we have packed extra suitcases of Sorrow that we didn't realise we had packed. We knew that we had Sadness, False Guilt, Anger, Resentment and Disappointment on board in the luggage department, but we usually are surprised to find Desperation, Disbelief, Doubt and Denial have hitched a ride in our bags as well.

As the doorman greets us and the bags are carried up to our rooms, we feel sure we hear evil laughter in the background....

We can be sure that the Evil One delights in our arrival, for he knows that sooner or later, he will be able to torment us with doubts about his greatest enemy, God. He will torment us with thoughts that will shake us to the very core. For he knows that in times of trouble, we need to cling to Jesus. By our arrival at the Pit of Despair, Satan knows that we are prime targets for Desperation, Disbelief, Doubt and Denial of the most extreme order: attacks on our Spirit and belief in Christ- doubts even whether God loves us and even if He has saved us.

To be sure, those thoughts have come fleetingly prior to entering the Pit of Despair, indeed, they have helped to lure us there. It is just a matter of time before those thoughts are so well entertained there that they threaten to overwhelm us in their intensity. For in times of trouble, where else can a Christian go than to the LORD? If Satan can get us to feel alone and that God doesn't care, then we are at the Pit's doorstep!

To avoid going to the Pit of Despair, it is imperative that we cling close to Jesus on a daily basis. Even when illness precludes bible reading or even listening to scripture, we should have enough of the Word inside of us to remember and to use against the Evil One. For we know that no matter what: God is for us and loves us!

We must put on the armour as described in Ephesians so that we can withstand the darts of the Evil One. And we must do this on a daily basis so that in the time of trouble, we WILL stand!

Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Ephesians 6:13

How does one get out of the Pit of Despair? you ask. By taking our thoughts captive and choosing to walk by faith and not by sight. Therefore [we are] always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord: (For we walk by faith, not by sight:) 2 Corinthians 5:6-7

We must stand firm on the foundation of Christ Who loves us in spite of what our emotions are telling us. Emotions can and do lie. We have to learn to stand of the firm and solid foundation of the Word and not the sinking sands of emotion.

I know this sounds simplistic and as a fellow sufferer who has periodically visited the Pit of Despair, I know how easy it is to let your guard down and succumb to despair. But having been there, I can tell you that you can find your way out, but only with storing the Word in your heart to guard your mind and heart in times of trouble.

the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

The Pit of Despair has its doors open 24/7...it is a place that no one wants to visit. Don't unintentionally start packing your suitcases by allowing self-pitying thoughts control you! Make sure that you don't go there, stay close to the LORD, immerse yourself in the Word and prayer...that in the time of trouble, instead of finding yourself unsure of your place in Christ's affections, you will run to Him as a child to its father. You have His Word and promise to you that He will be there waiting for you, His Child. That's a Promise!


For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. Romans 8:15 For thou hast been a shelter for me, [and] a strong tower from the enemy. Psalm 61:3 The name of the LORD [is] a strong tower: the righteous runneth into it, and is safe. Proverbs 18:10

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Saturday, 24 March 2012


With a trembling hand, I raised the stick of the pregnancy test and read the results. Positive. A new life was growing in the young womb--a life that only I seemed to want. Seeing my eyes grow moist, she knew the result without being told. She hung her head in silence. Putting my arm around her, I asked simply, "What are you going to do?" I knew the answer already, but I prayed for a change of heart. She was going to abort the 10-week-old growing baby.

Recovering from her stunned silence, she declared her choice: a death sentence for my first great-grandchild! Grieving already, I asked her to reconsider; I would help her in any way that I could! However, she remained firm in her decision. I gently sat her down next to me on the computer and together we viewed pictures of fetuses at 10 weeks. I was greatly heartened to hear her responses of delight at the knowledge that her baby had toes and fingers and a beating heart. Perhaps my great-grandchild would get to be born after all!

These hopes were dashed immediately after with her request that I ring an abortion clinic and take her there without her mother even knowing! I was appalled, and she knew without a shadow of a doubt that I wanted no part in this termination. I told her I wanted her to have the babe.

Knowing her fear was in part having her father find out, I told her that her mother must be informed no matter what her decision. The abortion was duly carried out the day I had my angiogram for my heart, and I cried the whole day. I cried for my great-grandchild, my granddaughter, and for the little girl looking for love and finding it in all the wrong places. I cried for the baby being torn viciously from the warmth of its mother's womb and for the pain it would endure. It didn't make my heart procedure any easier.

I prayed as they entered my heart with the catheter and the pain of the inserted stents served to highlight the pain of my grief. I prayed for my granddaughter, the baby, and myself. For I knew my granddaughter would eventually have a change of heart and come to the realisation that she had murdered her baby She would have to live with that regret forever. Abortionists won't tell you that your choices will usually haunt you. They won't give you options and they won't give you a chance to change your mind. They kept the ultrasound screen turned away from her and showed it to her mother... another ruse to avoid the young mum changing her mind..

She came to me a few weeks later, very depressed, telling me that she felt "weird." Pregnant women made her cry, and she said she felt empty. I asked her if she had regrets; she said she did. And then to my sorrow she explained that she knew she couldn't bring up a child by herself--babies were fine, but she couldn't cope with a teenager. She had the abortion a day past her 15th birthday. We named the baby Jordan. As I hugged her, we cried together.

I used to have very vindictive feelings towards women who abort their babies. But I have come to realise that the abortion industry has fed women a bunch of lies. God has so placed maternal feelings in our hearts that to reject our own child will effect us, no matter how much we think otherwise at the time. For we know innately that we are the carriers of a potential baby and not a group of cells, and the pain of regret and grief will eventually catch up with us...something abortionists again won't tell you.

They can streamline their procedure, making it as painless and inobstrusive in one's life and even fit it into one's schedule, but eventually it will catch up with us. If not in our youth, then in our menopausal years when life's regrets and possibilities are so glaringly scrutinised and grieved over...something abortionists yet again won't tell you.

Abortionists won't tell you that you more than triple your chance of getting breast cancer even at an early age through having an abortion.... they won't because they would be out of business, for they thrive on the tears of the unprepared pregnant woman, so "compassionate" yet that they never offer their services for nothing...something else abortionists won't tell you. There is no compassion in abortion: just ask my grieving granddaughter. posted with my grand daughters' permission

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

"Lo, children [are] an heritage of the LORD: [and] the fruit of the womb [is his] reward". Psalm 127:3

Tuesday, 13 March 2012

Do you get adequate sleep?

Chris and I used to often go late night shopping and we couldn’t help but notice the amount of people up at past 10pm. Children, I also mean pajama clad toddlers, often being pulled along by impatient adults or sitting half asleep in shopping trolleys.

People are working longer hours to cater for late night shopping and families are having to accommodate this, often suffering from lack of quality family time together. The world certainly is spinning its world fast with little regard to the importance of getting adequate sleep.

Medical science is now telling us that sleep deprivation can cause many health problems including problems of concentration and judgment when driving a car. We cannot burn the candle at both ends and expect to do well during the day! Our bodies were created for rest. Our children need their sleep to grow properly and to process all their new experiences and learning during the day. We are now told that teenagers need just as much sleep as their younger siblings.

If healthy teens and children need adequate sleep to function properly, how much more those of us who suffer from chronic illness and pain? Surely it is most important for us to rest and to try to schedule in more sleep!

When I was seeing my rheumatologist for lupus/fibromyalgia problems, she told me that it is not an old-wives' tale that the hours of sleep prior to midnight are the most refreshing. Apparently, an hours' sleep prior to midnight is equal to 2 after. This goes on our circadian rhythm. She advised me to be asleep by 10pm at the latest every night and to make bedtime a regular time- and getting up.

We know that a lot of chronic illness and certainly chronic pain can result in lack of good quality sleep, so it is even more important that we try to regulate sleeping in order to work with and not against, circadian rhythm. So do as I now do, and plan a regular time for retiring each night and work out a routine that tells your body that it's time for lights out!

If your children are not used to having a nightly ritual or routine, may I suggest starting one? It may be difficult to initiate, but it would be well worth it. With the household quiet of an evening, it would be more conducive to strengthening your marriage and allowing for more togetherness. This would benefit everyone.


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"When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet. ” Proverbs 3:24

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