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Friday, 24 March 2017

HYPOCRITES IN THE CHURCH



We are never going to find a perfect church because we are all sinners saved by grace. But at the least, love for each other should be obvious... or else we are no disciples of Christ... "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you." John 15:12  Sadly I have been to such mega churches where the preacher is more interested in getting the right side of his profile on the video tape... real performers! Give me a church that truly loves its' brethren...

Many people, myself included have been hurt by judging, unloving and critical Christians in church.  18 months ago after I left the last church where I was serving as a deaconess and a foundation member, I decided I had had enough of being hurt. My weight, age and illness were mocked and they were only going to get worse. I felt that I would never go to church again. But gradually over the months, I got an unbearable hunger for corporate worship and last Sunday, in spite of panic attacks and a bit of fear, I went with my friend to a church that Chris and I have attended before. It was good... I felt complete. 

I do understand the silent looks, the unspoken criticism of being ill and the almost palpable expectation of others to get better and to stop whingeing.... and yes, to have more faith. This world is geared to the young and well and the beautiful people, even in the church. If you happen to be obese as well, you are minced meat! But I had to work through that and to be honest, it still hurts. Christians should not judge on externals...

But I need to go to church. For me, it was a lesson in forgiveness and knowing that Jesus accepts me as I am, even if young pioneer church planters of pastors, don't. I think unless God intervenes in their hearts, a lot of go getting pastors will continue to view the chronically ill aged and overweight  or  poorly clad, with the carnal mindset of the world.

I wonder if they have really heard from God in their calling when His compassion and love is evidently not manifested in their actions.  This shouldn't be with pastors because although human they are entrusted with much and they should be worthy of the respect they deserve as pastors. Yet sadly many fall very short. I believe it is a sad indictment against the modern church... and pastorate. 

Did you know that Mahatma Gandhi was shown contempt when he went to a church? he never went again, citing us as hypocrites! This is so sad and I know it grieves the LORD.
http://www.christiantoday.co.in/article/mahatma.gandhi.and.christianity/2837.htm

If the church has no compassion for the sick, no care for the poor or hunger to reach the lost, then she doesn't know her God and deserves to be called hypocritical.


© Glenys Robyn Hicks


Therefore the Lord said: "Inasmuch as these people draw near with their mouths and honor Me with their lips, but have removed their hearts far from Me, and their fear toward Me is taught by the commandment of men,"  Isaiah 29:13

Thursday, 23 March 2017

BEATITUDES FOR A HOUSEWIFE



Blessed is she whose daily tasks are a labor of love; for her willing hand and happy heart translate duty into privilege, and her labor becomes a service to God and all mankind.

Blessed is she who opens the door to welcome both stranger and well-loved friend; for gracious hospitality is a test of brotherly love.

Blessed is she who mends stockings and toys and broken hearts, for her understanding is a balm to humanity.

Blessed is she who children love, for the love of a child is more to be valued than fortune or fame.

Blessed is she who sings at her work; for music lightens the heaviest load and brightens the dullest chore.

Blessed is she who dusts away doubt and fear and sweeps out the cobwebs of confusion; for her faith will triumph over all adversity.

Blessed is she who serves laughter and smiles with every meal; for her buoyancy of spirit is an aid to mental and physical digestion.

Blessed is she who preserves the sanctity of the Christian home; for hers is a sacred trust that crowns her with dignity.

Blessings, Glenys

Author unknown- Taken from the Yankee Kitchen Cookbook, 1969


Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Monday, 20 March 2017

MINDING OUR OWN BUSINESS


I have noticed all the pictures of Warrior Princesses for Christ and I have even posted some. My thoughts are that even though we are told to put on the armour of God, that it is to protect ourselves in our daily walk. I think a lot of people think that they must literally go out looking for battles in the heavenly realm in order to be walking in the Spirit. But I don't think this is necessarily so.

We do have to go into spiritual battle and pray for a someone we want to see saved or under attack.. but I don't think that's the norm for every day. We do face enough problems in life to necessitate putting on the armour as a daily practice, but the thought behind these masculine images makes me cringe. It evokes a different theme than what I think was intended when we are told to put on the armour...

There are plenty of occasions where we will have to fight for what we believe, and for keeping our own thoughts in the captivity of Christ... I don't believe that we have to go out on a crusade looking for "missions". We are called to be a people of peace, not busybodies, but keepers of our home and family...

Girding up with the armour should be a practice we use daily for our own protection but it is not an automatic requirement that we seek out trouble that really has nothing to do with us... we are called to live our own lives in quietness and not to be busybodies...

I think given our chronic illness and daily struggle in that, that we should really be relieved to know that we don't have to battle every battle here or in the heavenly realm. 

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

..that you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, 1 Thessalonians 4:11

Friday, 17 March 2017

A BITTERSWEET DAY!


Today is my granddaughter, Ashleigh's 18th birthday.  It is a day when our family will be celebrating her birth, but for another family it is a day of deep mourning.

My granddaughter's birth was a very complicated one. It was a very protracted labour as first deliveries can often be,  and after 17 hours of intense labour, my daughter requested and was given an epidural. Her partner left the room when she fell asleep, but I as her doula, stayed.  I asked the midwife what the graphs on the fetal monitor were supposed to read. She explained it all to me, boosted the Oxytocyn drip up higher and told me she would be in to check on her in 2 hours.  They were rushed off their feet with every delivery room full.

I had noticed some meconium stain when I was assisting my daughter, and I had privately advised the staff.  The baby was under some stress and to my mind, the stage was set for a possible emergency caesarean.  I was proved right.

With my daughter sleeping on three pillows, exhausted, there was nothing for me to do but watch the fetal monitor. I am sure God had planned for me to be there, for things went horribly wrong with the babys' heartbeat dipping dangerously during a contraction and not picking up after. My daughter would have been alone but as I saw it,  I ran to the nurses' station and told them to come urgently.  Within 10 minutes the child was born. 

If it hadn't been for me staying with my daughter instead of going for a coffee,  I would not have noticed the dipping heart rate until the babe was flat lining.  My daughter would have delivered a still-born daughter as they weren't even going to check on her for 2 hours. I remember seeing no staff around near the nurses' station and every door to each birthing room was closed.  I had to grab a midwife as she came out with some dirty linen.

Ashleigh was touch and go for a while but recovered quickly.  Not so for some poor woman and her baby in the long corridor of delivery rooms.  There was a distinct pall over the maternity floor and to this day I wonder just which room was the final resting place of a young mother and her unborn baby.

As the mother of still-born twins, I know the pain of loss, but I can't fathom the loss that the young father must have felt. Not to mention any other children the couple may have had and the girls' parents who lost not only a child but a grandchild as well.

I am so grateful to God that we have a healthy teenager today, but I have to try not to dwell on the fact that somewhere a family mourns the loss of a mother and child.  Life is full of tragedy... full of bittersweet days that herald a new life and see the passing of another.

Please join me in saying a quick prayer for that mourning family... it's all I can do for them. Oh, and happy birthday, Ashleigh!


© Glenys Robyn Hicks


To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up [that which is] planted; Ecclesaistes 3:1-2

IT'S ALL GOOD



I have always sought to live my life according to God's Word, and I have tried to encourage other Christian women in their walk. Over the five years that I have written of God's wonderful plan for us as wives, mothers and homemakers, I have been impressed with how the 5 areas of priority in our lives overlap so much that at times I have had to categorise them by adding all the 5 areas to each post. Let me explain.

Just a quick recap of the five areas of service for the Christian woman and wife in order of priority:
  • God

  • Husband

  • Children

  • Home

  • Church
We must serve God and have Him first in our life. "He hath shewed thee, O man, what [is] good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?" Micah 6:8

Because everything is spiritual in our life, I have discovered that when we serve our husbands, we are serving Christ. " Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as is fit in the Lord " Colossians 3:18 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy" 1 Corinthians 7:14

When we look after our home, we are serving God, our husband and our children. "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." 1 Timothy 5:14

Serving in church or serving in God's Name is important but should not come before all the other 4 priorities are in order. (widows) " well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work" 1 Timothy 5:10

I have found that often I cannot place a post under just one category because it is so closely correlated to the other categories of service. This is because everything in our lives is spiritual. When we consider the umbrella of God's protection as well, we can see that God's plan for our lives is amazing. We have everything here to guide us as wives, mothers and homemakers. We can be sure that we are living our lives in a way that is pleasing to God and in keeping with His Word. 

It is not only comforting to know that God's Word guides us in our daily living, but it is also amazing that we can know with a certainty that God not only approves of us being wives, mothers and homemakers, but that He calls most of us to be that! 

If God has called us to be a wife with all that entails, then let us rejoice in His plan for our life. In doing so, we can be partners with God in His greatest creation: people who will love Him and live for eternity with Him! And we will live an abundant life full of blessings as Christ has promised.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks

Wednesday, 15 March 2017

A NEW NAME CHANGE FOR MY BLOG!



I used to have blog called Sacrificial Home Keeper. I find I am writing quite a bit for chronically ill women and so I have decided to return to my previous blog name.

So, welcome to my "new" blog: Sacrificial Home Keeper... because anyone who manages a home when chronically ill does so sacrificially....

Blessings, Glenys 

HAVEN OF PEACE



Everyone desires to have a calming home that is a haven of peace. In order to have a calming home it is important to remember that Spirit pervades.

A home can be peaceful and calming or the complete opposite depending on the temper of the people who live there.

The wife sets the temper of the home. What can be done in order to influence the temper of the home to achieve peace and calm?

Smile – it is amazing how a smiling face can relax people and help create a pleasing tone for those around you

Play soothing music- restful music, especially Christian worship or classical, can help create a calming atmosphere

Have the house smelling nice- it is a medical fact that nice smells create less tension (think aromatherapy and essential oils)

Beautiful touches- give the eye something aesthetically pleasing to look at

Low voices – keep voices low and do not allow yelling, shouting or rowdy behaviour

Have a sense of order- a well run home is usually a happy home.

Be clean- whilst some dirt is acceptable in daily living, too much certainly will irritate not only noses, but tempers

Resolve differences – try to resolve differences between people living in the house- nothing stops peace like hidden grievances

Turn the news off... once you've seen it, turn the set off.. 

Guard against ungodly influences in the home- ban violent or ungodly TV programs and strictly monitor X-boxes, Nintendos and computer games. Police children’s rooms for unsuitable literature and music etc

Avoid people who cause discord- where possible, avoid inviting divisive people into the home- your home is your sanctuary, not a battle-field of explosive emotions.

Set boundaries- make sure your children and especially teens know what is acceptable behaviour in your home. Make house rules- and stick to them.

With a little thought, any home can be the sanctuary you crave. But like anything else that is worth having, it may take a lot of effort to make changes and be consistent with them.

It is well to remember those homes you have been to where you felt peaceful and relaxed and focus on that as you make changes in your own. Make it a haven of peace.

© Glenys Robyn Hicks


He blesseth the habitation of the just. Proverbs 3:33a
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